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Finding Support from Your Friends

We’ve talked extensively about how important it is that we keep friends outside of our marriage.  And that doesn’t mean that we have friends who can’t also be friends with our spouses.  It just means that we look for emotional connections with more people than just our spouses.  I know it’s very true for me; my two best friends give me things my husband never could, and not just things like watching the six-hour BBC “Pride and Prejudice.” It’s a real romantic notion – both in the love and in the story sense of the word – that our spouses … Continue reading →

His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr.

This is truly my favorite relationship book. It really gets to the core of the problem, explains why things like infidelity happen and then give you tools to prevent it. The analogies in this book are great, for example, the Love Bank. They use the love bank to explain how when you meet someone and things are wonderful, this person is making deposits in your love bank. Eventually those deposits add up to a marriage. They also explain how certain things cause withdrawals from your love bank. In the normal course of marriage you will both make deposits and withdrawals … Continue reading →

Maintaining Friends

On one of the forums recently one person bemoaned the fact that since she and her boyfriend have been together she has lost contact with friends. This is what can often happen when people become part of a couple or get married, unless we make an effort not to allow it too. We need to work to prevent this and to ensure that we maintain friendships that were formed in earlier times. We cannot afford to be cavalier with friendships and disregard them easily. True friends are a great source of blessing, help and encouragement as we go through life … Continue reading →

But They Were Married in the Temple

We place a lot of emphasis on getting married in the temple. We teach about it in Family Home Evening, Primary, Young Men’s and Young Women’s. Our focus as an LDS people is to be temple worthy and remain temple worthy throughout our lives. Unfortunately, as we talk about temple marriage, sometimes we forget one very important thing – temple marriage gives us the opportunity to be together forever. It is not a guarantee. My parents were divorced when I was a teenager. They had been married in the temple and my sisters and I were all born in the … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for January 28 – February 3

Last week Lyn and I said goodbye to January and welcomed February. Here’s what we wrote on: Monday, January 28 Internet Infidelity Leads to Attempted Hit A married woman tried to use Craigslist to off her equally married lover…who she’d met online. Successful Serious Discussions with Your Mate Lyn offers suggestions for setting a positive tone for starting serious discussions. Proxy Marriages Only four states allow these types of marriages, which don’t require both parties even be in attendance to wed. Tuesday, January 29 Personalized Gifts to Delight Your Valentine Once again I was shopping the catalogs and found items … Continue reading →

Friends: His, Hers, and Ours

Going out with other couples or having guests over to your house is not always fun and easy when you are married. Just because you have a group of friends that you hold dear does not mean that your husband will feel the same about them. My husband and I graduated from the same high school during the same year. We know mainly the same people from school. We dated beginning our sophomore year and basically had the same friends. However, after high school we attended two different colleges and now work in two different schools. Therefore our friends are … Continue reading →

Ask Yourself…Are You Really Ready To Get Married?

Getting married is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. You are choosing your life partner. Your spouse will be your confidant, your best friend, your playmate, your business partner, the one you turn to in times of worry and stress and someone you will need to rely on for the years to come. Oprah did a show recently where she referred to the issue of women in the United States getting married when they really did not want to or were pressured to do so an epidemic. The engagement ring. WOW! What a wonderful piece of … Continue reading →

Friday Marriage Funnies – 10 Things Wives & Girlfriends Need to Know

The great thing about Fridays is the good humor, the laughter and the welcome relief of knowing the weekend is here. For married parents in my area, it’s also the last school day for a week and we’ll all be scrambling to get ready for the holidays. Some of us will be traveling. Some of us will be having visitors. Hopefully, all of us will be having a good time. So with that in mind, here are 10 things that wives and girlfriends need to know – or at least that most of the men in our lives would like … Continue reading →

Protect Your Friendships After Marriage

It’s a sad fact that marriage can alter friendships, but it’s important to recognize that your circle of friends are as important after you get married as they were before. When couples get married, the first few months, nigh on years can be time spent focusing intently on each other – to the exclusion of previous friendships. While most of us don’t do it deliberately, there is a line of exclusion that seems to divide us from our single and married friends. Subtle Changes The losses always begin subtly. You don’t call your friends as often. You beg off from … Continue reading →

Wedding Rings and Gender Roles, Pt. 2

Last time I examined the discussion over whether or not men should have to wear wedding rings. Just about all of the arguments either for or against skipped one relevant consideration: whether or not women should have to or even enjoy wearing them. Only one article I found briefly acknowledged the idea: the author said that neither of her parents has worn a wedding ring for decades, for a variety of reasons. That’s all we’ve got: in the wedding rings debate we have in-depth considerations of male class traditions, shifting perspectives of masculinity, and a man’s role in a marriage, … Continue reading →