Why Does He Get More Credit?by Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger 06 Feb 2008 08:34 PM Most women have their children with them at all times unless they are at work. They take the children grocery shopping, to run errands, and to appointments. The woman is typically the person that has to worry with finding a babysitter when the time is needed. In many cases, the wife takes care of household chores and really gets not much acknowledgment for it. She does them without being told to do them and she is expected to do them. She actually gets more attention if they are not done (of course it is negative attention!) Women do not receive daily praises for their efforts. No one thanks them for taking the children to school or for washing and ironing the clothes. Nor does the woman go out and boast about how she helped out and did her part with the family (which we know is more than her part!) However, things change greatly when the man comes into play. Time after time I have sat and heard the oohs and the ahhs when a man walks in alone with his children. The public goes crazy about how sweet and good this husband is for having his children out and giving his wife a break. They then turn on the wife and begin to feel sorry for the man because his wife is not helping out. "Where is she anyway?" they wonder. It is my guess that she is sick or had to work late or at a meeting. Believe me she is not piled up on the couch for some well deserved time alone. So why is it that men need or receive recognition for the things that they do and women do not? How many of you have had your husband repeatedly remind you of the one time that he cooked supper or put in a load of laundry? Do you remind him each time that you do it? When a man does his share of the housework, he expects a metal. We on the other hand are just expected to do it. The Biggest Challenges to Marriage Learn more about Lyn Newton  Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments MarieMatthews (82) 07 Feb 2008 02:23 PMI can only provide my opinion based on my circumstances. My husband works all day in a high-stress job, every day. 12 hour days at the office are normal for him. He is also "on call" all weekend. I also believe that SAHMs also work all day, every day. BUT, I have to play devil's advocate and ask: How many times are the men in our lives thanked for going to work every day? As Chris Rock would say, do we thank them for providing for us? Do we thank them for bringing home money to pay the bills? ("Gee, Dad, thanks for all this light!" : ). If not, we should. Spouses should always recognize the other's contributions. I'm happy when he helps with the kids and he's happy when I look for ways to contribute financially to the household. I definitely tell my husband what I accomplished during the day and he does the same. And we both appreciate it. I guess we're lucky.  Lyn Newton (3966) 07 Feb 2008 06:13 PMSounds like you have a good relationship. Appreciation goes a long way! Community Tags appreciation, sharing chores Discuss this article
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