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When Is It Emotional Cheating?

Last time I wrote about the importance of our friends, how they’re still so necessary even when we’re married.  I said that we can get some things from our friends that we can’t from our spouses.  That can be anything from goofy times, to a chance to talk about our relationship/our spouse (not bad mouth, but just to talk), to even filling some emotional needs. Now, I realize that this could be a dangerous line.  Emotional cheating is very real, and it’s not something to be taken lightly.  So today I wanted to point out the difference between having some … Continue reading →

You Can Window Shop All You Like

‘You can window shop all you like so long as you don’t take the goods home.’ This is the attitude of many to marriage. Another along similar lines is ‘you can flirt as much or lust as you like, so long as when you’re having sex it’s with your spouse.’ These are the type of attitudes a young married couple hear a lot from others they work with and even their friends. The idea is that it is harmless but is it? Faithfulness in marriage isn’t only about sex. It also means not going off for coffee with another of … Continue reading →

Men: The Weaker Sex?

Before I begin, I just want to say that, even though the title might suggest otherwise, this article isn’t intended to be a slam against men. Rather, it’s just some reflections on things I’ve seen regarding boyfiends and husbands over the past 10 years during my stint as a stay-at-home wife. Not that I’ve had all sorts of relationships with other men. But I’ve had lots and lots of talks with my women friends. It was when I was living in Jacksonville that I noticed a pattern forming where our husbands were concerned. And ever since I noticed it, I … Continue reading →

Revenge Affairs

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All across the Families.com board, writer and readers have commented on couples, mistrust, and affairs. Various different types of affairs and affair types have been talked about. Cheating is one of the biggest forms of mistrust that a partner could ever commit in a relationship. Being cheated on and feeling the consequences of broken trust can be a very heartbreaking experience. Every person may react to this experience in a different way. Some people are devastated emotionally. Others become angry and some become withdrawn. During these times, some look for ways to get revenge and hurt their mate the way … Continue reading →

Dilemmas: Friends and Inappropriate Behaviors, Part 2

In Part 1, I wrote about some sticky situations friends might put us in (knowingly or unknowingly). Ones that can cause dilemmas when deciding how to handle them. I promised my answers for what I would do, so here they are. If a Friend Knew My Husband Was Cheating Ideally, I’d like to have my spouse make the confession. So if my husband was cheating and a friend knew, I’d like the friend to confront Wayne and encourage him to tell me. But if that didn’t happen, I’d want my friend to show me irrefutable proof. I would be the … Continue reading →

Dilemmas: Friends and Inappropriate Behavior

Once upon a time, that reader known as Jade “The Muse” Walker sent me a link to a story about someone’s friend having an affair. The friend’s dilemma: should she tell her friend’s husband about it or not? In addition to asking what I would do, Jade posed another interesting question. “If the situation was reversed, would you want to know?” Sticky Situations Because Jade sent this back when my mom had just moved in with us, I don’t recall everything the article said. (Lots has happened since then and the link is now inactive. I couldn’t reread the article … Continue reading →

When a Divorce Does Not Mean Your Marriage is Over

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So when is your marriage really over? Many people think that the answer to this question is when the divorce is final in court. However for some people and couples that is not true. A marriage can last for a long time after the final papers have been issued. While the marriage may be over legally, it may not be over emotionally and mentally. Most people that have gone through a divorce will agree that while the final papers help with some closure, they do not erase the life that you once lived together and automatically let you start again … Continue reading →

Verbal Affairs

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The writers here at Families.com are wonderful at covering all of the different aspects of marriage. In those discusses, we have picked apart the topic of affairs on several occasions. We have discussed the affects of affairs, staying together after an affair, emotional affairs, mental affairs, and physical affairs. However I think that there may be one affair type that has been left out. Is there such a thing as a verbal affair? Can two people create too close of a bond with another through verbal means. I think that the answer is “yes”. Perhaps this type of affair is … Continue reading →

Man Sells His Life on Ebay after Divorce

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The ending of marriage is difficult no doubt. The break-up is even harder if it was provoked by your mate and undesired by you. People deal with break-ups and divorces in all different ways. Some people get angry while others are upset and depressed. I have heard of people moving to different parts of the country and changing jobs and even hairstyles after a break-up. However, until now, I have never heard of anyone who actually sold his or her life. After his divorce a year ago, 44 year old Ian Usher from Australia decided that everything about him and … Continue reading →

Never Fess Up to an Affair?

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My last article discussed my amazement to a new book to be released that actually finds the positive side of affairs. I would like to take this article to give some discussion to my beliefs about the book. While I have not actually read the book, I have looked into some excerpts from it and gotten a good idea how the author feels and her point of views on cheating. My first thought was that perhaps a book about the positive side of affairs is a good idea. However I was more thinking in terms of from the perspective of … Continue reading →