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25 Inexpensive but Fun Ways to Spend Together Time with Your Spouse.

Yesterday’s blog featured the importance of sharing common interests and spending time together as couple, talking and being involved in each other’s interests and lives. Sadly too many couples seem to live almost independent of each other these days and do not put enough emphasis and value on spending time together. No matter how busy life is, I can’t stress how important it is to maintain your relationship and make sure you keep a regular date night or time together without family. So here are 21 ideas, most of which won’t cost the earth: 1. Cook a meal and go … Continue reading →

A Conversation You Wish You Had with Your Spouse

Is there a conversation you wish you had had with your spouse? It might be a conversation you wish you’d had with your spouse, or your parents, or another family member. The book I’ve been reading suggested, ‘write down something you wish you’d said with someone close to you but never did.’ In the book the main character, Sophie, looks back at all the ‘honest conversations’ she didn’t have with her ex. Conversations that she believed later might have averted the ‘derailment of their marriage.’ She thought about all the conversations she didn’t have with her parents and with her … Continue reading →

Less Chance of Divorce

It’s official, men who help their wives with housework, shopping and caring for children are less likely to have their marriages end in divorce, according to a study in the United Kingdom. There could be several reasons for this. One is that when the wife is working outside the home she is under a lot of stress trying to combine work as wife, mother, lover and woman in the work force. Therefore she’s less likely to have time to pay attention to her husband’s needs and more likely to feel hard done by when he does not help out. This … Continue reading →

Do Women Talk Too Much?

We’ve all seen the caricature in movies and TV shows of women talking and the husband not listening. It happens in real life too. I’ve heard lots of women accuse their husbands of not listening or switching off. Hey, I might have even been guilty of that one myself. It’s a known fact though, that men have ‘selective hearing.’ Any woman can tell you that. But could we women be part of the problem? Is part of the problem that we women talk too much? Do we expect our men to communicate when they don’t really want to? On the … Continue reading →

Picture of a Marriage

Yesterday Mick and I had a day date and went to the movies to see ‘Revolutionary Road.’ It is a movie about a marriage. So often we hear that it is women who want to talk out their problems and men who don’t listen. In this case he often wanted to talk about the problems but the wife didn’t want to talk about the problems they were experiencing. The crowd, with the exception of a few brave men like my husband, was predominately female. A collective gasp ran around the theater like a current of electricity when he raised his … Continue reading →

Making Assumptions

Making assumptions about what your spouse believes or thinks about things can spell trouble. I read a story recently sent us by a friend about a situation in Papua New Guinea. The men and women were split into two separate groups. Each group was asked what they considered to be the three most important issues to support children at school. Then each group was asked what they thought the other group would say. The men said ‘double classrooms, libraries and teacher houses.’ When asked what the women would say, they assumed the women would say exactly the same as what … Continue reading →

Causes of Marriage Break Ups

Opposites attract but only up to a point. According to Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott,one of the main reasons many couples break up is that they have not enough in common. This can happen early in a marriage or even sometimes, as it seems recently in growing numbers, after the children have moved out of home. Couples find they have nothing in common. Nothing left to talk about. A solution to this might be to take up a hobby or sport together. Before I broke my arm which has out me put of action for months, Mick and I played … Continue reading →

Making a New Year’s Resolution for Marriage

This is a good time to reflect and take stock and make resolutions that will improve the quality of your marriage. I loved this recipe for beauty in Zaphon a writing newsletter I periodically receive. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed – never throw out anyone. As you grow older, you will discover that you … Continue reading →

Top Twelve Marriage Articles of 2006

Can you pick the best marriage article of 2006? I’ve been writing here since the end of December of 2005 and I can’t tell you how hard this list was to compile, I chose one article from every month of this year and I still don’t think I’ve done every article here justice. With over a 1,000 articles to choose from, culling the list to 12 was beyond difficult. But thanks to a great year and a great co-blogger here in marriage, I’ve done my best. So without further ado, here are my picks for the top twelve marriage articles … Continue reading →

Marriage Communication: Talking Tips

Despite the fact that we learn to speak as toddlers and we learn more complex forms of language as children, learning to communicate is often confused with learning to talk and the truth is – while they are related – talking is merely a form of communication and it’s definitely not the whole shebang. Interestingly enough, communication actually gets harder when emotions are involved than when they aren’t. Imagine if you will, your communications with co-workers, instructors and other business related interactions. Your ability to clearly state and communicate your needs, desires and requirements is likely familiar, if not very … Continue reading →