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Sleeping in Separate Beds: You’re Not Alone

Our culture believes that couples who sleep in separate beds are either experiencing or inviting problems in their marriage. Because I’m a light sleeper, I’m a firm believer that couples should be free to sleep separately if necessary. Jon and I almost always sleep together, but if one of us is restless we move to another bed, to keep that person from being woken up. I know that sleeping in the same bed improves intimacy. Once kids are part of the equation alone time between couples is scarce, and time in bed together, even if it’s just the process of … Continue reading →

The Freedom To Work When It Works For You

One of the best things about working from home is that you have the freedom to choose a schedule that works best for you. This great post by Richele McFarlin is a good example of how someone who works from home can adjust her work hours as her needs and the needs of her family change over time. Since I work from home, I have that same freedom and I have been able to create a schedule that fits both my needs and the needs of my family. My primary occupation is that of stay – at – home mom. … Continue reading →

Are Your Core Values the Same?

How did you go with three words to describe you and your spouse? Did you find it hard to choose just three? I did. For my husband I could have also added, loving, creative, clever (especially at fixing things and doing things with his hands which I am not) friendly, (people always enjoy talking to him and he can talk to anyone), down to earth and realistic. (I’m emotional and I’m a worrier. He’s neither.) Since we are so different how does that work out in our marriage? Fine. As Courtney said we compliment or balance each other. He keeps … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for January 14-20

In case anything kept you from reading the Marriage Blog everyday last week, here’s a recap of what Lyn and I wrote on: Monday, January 14 When You Do Not Care for Your Friend’s Partner Lyn discussed something I think we’ve all experienced at one time or another, either being the person to not like a friend’s choice of mate or being the one not liked. She gave some suggestions for how to handle such a situation when it arises. Do Fairy Tales Exist in the Congo? I wondered what kind of fairy tales (if any) the women of the … Continue reading →

When Work Keeps You Apart

There are many obstacles that can hinder a relationship or come between a couple. Life in general can be tiresome, stressful, and overwhelming. However, work overloads and hours can really be hard on a marriage. I had never really thought about work hours and marriage until recently when I was talking with a friend. She and her husband both work at night. She works at a hospital and he is a police officer. Neither of them has set days of the week to work. They both receive a different schedule each month. While we were talking, she commented that she … Continue reading →

Your Checklist for Renting a Place

In the next couple of years you want to buy a property, but what do you do until then? Not everyone is at the point where they can afford to put a large sum down for a house. Even with no money down options, you may have to compromise by coping with a high interest rate or other catches. Until you are ready to weigh all the options for making a real estate investment, find a place that is nice to rent and your buying moment will come. 1. Ask yourself what you want. This seems simple enough, but it … Continue reading →

Make Yourself Trustworthy

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Trust is one of those words that rolls off the tongue easily, but is harder to frame in an emotional definition. Trust is a sensation. It’s an experience. It’s a knowledge. Trust is very much linked with faith in that you put your belief into it – but trust also has tangible results. Initially, we learn to trust those who validate us. We trust those who live up to our expectations, who show us consideration and who prove to us they can be trustworthy. We learn to distrust those who treat us as an adversary in a competition. We distrust … Continue reading →

Keeping The Grill Clean

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I love to bbq in the summer time. Not only is it a change of pace from the way we usually eat, it also keeps the house from heating up. As a bonus there are no pots, pans or casserole dishes to clean. My grill gets a good workout all summer long so I need to clean it frequently. The grates on your grill should be cleaned after every use. When the grill has cooled off a little but it still warm, take your brush and scrub the grates clean. After this wipe them down with a paper towel covered … Continue reading →

Too Many Decorations!

Once upon a time, we lived in a small, one bedroom apartment. We did not have children. We did have two cats and we thought that they were our children, but since the cats enjoyed staying alone in the house and sleeping all day, we were somewhat deluded. Then came the child. Just one. And with her came a larger home, and with the home came an extraordinary number of seasonal decorations. All right, so we bought the last two, but they seemed to proliferate as the child came along. If you too are wading in seasonal decor, here are … Continue reading →

Had a Great Bike Ride Today

Today I went on about a fifteen mile bike ride with a new friend. We did a trail that starts about half a mile from my house and rode for about an hour and a half. As we were biking along the trail, I realized how enjoyable biking is and what I like about it. One reason I like biking is because getting into biking won’t break the bank. I also like how you can use biking for exercise, leisure, errands or getting to work. There are lots of things you can do when you have a bike, even if … Continue reading →