When Opposites Attractby Mary Ann Romans | More from this Blogger 13 Apr 2009 07:38 AM
Opposites Attract You crave adventure, while your husband is content being home in the same routine. You like to save, and he likes to spend. You are shy and have only a few very close friends, and he is an outgoing party animal. He is the nerd and you are the athlete. There are so many ways to be opposite in a marriage. The good With opposites, you have a tendency to balance each other out. Where one person has a shortfall, the other person can step in to create a harmonious balance. The not so good With opposite personalities, there can be a lot of tension. The two of you may want different things or have different approaches to solving a problem. One partner may form a resentment of the other, if life favors one type of personality over the other. The advice With opposites, it is important to make sure that you keep that communication open and understand what the other person wants and needs. Having unconditional acceptance for your spouse, even if his views and opinions are not the same as yours can help. After all, you fell in love with the person as he is, didn't you? Make sure that you have the same core values in similarity, or at least discuss where you will fall as a marriage. Even if you don't agree as individuals, you should come to the same basic philosophy on important areas such as money, children and fidelity. Work out solutions that will make both of you comfortable in your opposite views. You might set up a disposable spending account, for example, so that the spender can spend all he likes up to a limited amount without retribution. Check back again for a look at marriages made up of similar partners. Mary Ann Romans writes about everything related to saving money in the Frugal Blog, creating a home in the Home Blog, caring for little ones in the Baby Blog and now relationships in the Marriage Blog. You can read more of her articles by clicking here. Related Articles: Attack the Issue, Not Each Other The Gift of Unconditional Acceptance For a Good Marriage, Avoid the Story Telling Learn more about Mary Ann Romans  Mary Ann Romans is a freelance writer, wife and mother of three children. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband, the kids and a 16-pound cat. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments No comments on this article yet. Be the first to comment! Community Tags advice, marriage, opposites attract, relationships Discuss this article
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Do opposites attract? Or do two people who think alike have it made? Good marriages can be made up of two people that are opposite and balance each other, or two people who are so similar that they hardly ever disagree. Both types of marriages have their good and the not so good. Which marriage is yours?
