When a Stalker Intrudes on Your Relationship...

by Courtney Mroch | More from this Blogger

...it can be really uncomfortable.

First let me define what I mean by "stalker." I'm not talking about the crazy knife-wielding, if-I-can't-have-you-no-one-can kind. (I imagine it's a lot more than just "really uncomfortable" dealing with that sort.) No, I'm referring to the kind of people who take a sudden and very keen interest in you or your mate and are conveniently everywhere you are at the same time, or call all the time, or email...you probably get the gist.

This thankfully hasn't happened to Wayne and me in a while now. But he and I have both had a stalker a piece in our years together.

The first time we ever dealt with someone of this nature was the worst. It was back when Wayne was in college. Some girl had been stalking him for a couple of weeks, but he never told me about it until I went to visit one weekend. And he only told me then because he was acting so weird I was instantly suspicious.

The red flag first went up when he seemed to be avoiding taking me on campus. But it became completely obvious something was up when he wouldn't let me come check his mail cubby with him. He made me stand outside. Then when we were getting ready to drive somewhere, he demanded I wait behind until he went to check the car first. (A request he'd never made before.)

His behavior was one thing, but he's a terrible liar. When I asked why he was acting so weird he finally broke down and told me about the girl who'd been leaving him notes in his mail cubby, on his car, and following him after classes and all around campus. Her notes were all very sexual in nature and he knew because I was so jealous I'd never believe he hadn't done something to bring it on.

He was right.

No matter how much he tried to tell me other friends had told him this was the girl's M.O., that she'd done this to several other guys, that he'd never even spoken to her except for one time at the pool where he worked as a life guard, and that was only to answer her question about pool hours, I wouldn't believe him. He'd been flirting (or worse, which I was trying not to believe was the case) and it got him in trouble. Of that I was convinced.

It wasn't until a year later when I was off at college for Freshmen year and encountered my own stalker, a boy I'd only spoken to once to answer a question about a hall government related function I was helping to organize, that I realized, "Crap. Maybe Wayne really didn't do anything wrong after all..."

To Be Continued...

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Courtney Mroch is a wife, a proud pet parent, and a writer. She's been with her husband, high school sweetheart Wayne Pryor, over 20 years, married 11 of those. She's "mom" to Mr. Meow, a.k.

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