What They Need Most

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been taking an online organization course. I’ve always been the kind of person who makes to-do lists, and I like to stay organized. Now, note that I like to stay organized – I didn’t say it always happens, and the last two months have been absolutely crazy busy for me. As I sat contemplating my to-do list and following the course’s homework assignment of thinking about my priorities, I contemplated my family. I wanted to start listing all the wonderful things I was going to do for them, from color-coordinating their closets to fluffing … Continue reading

Timing is Everything

‘Become the change you want to see in the world.’ That quote from Gandhi is emblazoned cross the notice board of a high school around our way. It started me thinking that it sounds like good advice for marriage too. So if you want your spouse to be more thoughtful or understanding or sensitive to your needs, then maybe you need to demonstrate those qualities toward your spouse first. I’m talking to myself, as much as any of you reading here. If you want your spouse to listen to you, then you need to show them the courtesy of listening … Continue reading

The Way Couples Relate

I watch people. Now maybe it’s because I’m a writer or maybe it’s just that I’m interested in people but I watch how couples relate to each other especially in marriage. Some couples never seem to touch each other. They never hold hands or stand with their arms around each other. I think it’s sad. I could never imagine being with a man who didn’t want to, or was incapable of showing affection. I hear of other couples where men never express their love, of men and women who have been married for years and the husband has never said … Continue reading

Expressions of Love

The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced it’s the little things in life and in marriage that make all the difference. What sort of things? Here are a few examples from our week. Enjoying an Experience Together The other day Mick and I rose early, got in the car and drove to the nearby beach. There we watched the sun come up and walked along the beach. What a beautiful start to the morning. Of course we snapped photos too to help imprint the time even further in our memory banks. Encouragement and Support On Monday night … Continue reading