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Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex

My baby brother is leaving on an LDS mission to Paris, France tomorrow afternoon. This is a bittersweet time for everyone, as we won’t see him for the next two years, but no one will experience these feelings quite as deeply as his parents, well at least one of them. When Bryan opened his mission call five months ago his father refused to be there. Not because of Bryan, but because the event would take place at Bryan’s mother’s home where he has spent the majority of his childhood years growing up. Though I’m not sure Bryan would admit this, … Continue reading →

Don’t Judge My Choices Until You Live My Life

Is there anyone who hasn’t heard about the horrific shooting in Colorado? Friday at work it was all anyone could talk about and as fellow blogger pointed out in her blog, Watch Where You Point That Finger, everyone had an opinion about people taking their children to the movies in the first place. Apparently those people have never been single parents. Or maybe they’ve never been any type of parent but I know, as a single parent, sometimes, midnight showings are your best friend. If your kids are young, you hope they will sleep through the movie. As a single … Continue reading →

Putting Your Feelings Aside

My little brother opened his LDS mission call tonight. For those of you unfamiliar with this custom, it is a huge milestone in the lives of these young men. They prepare from the time they are little boys for this moment. It takes a tremendous amount of hard work and dedication and is a momentous occasion in their lives. Sadly, my brother’s father chose not to attend this special event. He was too bitter about a divorce that happened nearly fifteen years ago to come to an event where his ex-wife, our mother, would be present. My brother puts on … Continue reading →

You On A Diet by Dr. Roizen and Dr. Oz

Since it’s a new year and most of us have resolved to take better care of ourselves, me included, I thought I would review some of Dr. Oz’s books. You On A Diet is a great book. We all know that in order to lose weight we need to eat fewer calories and move more, sounds simple but we know the reality. This book will not only give you tips to get in the best shape you can, it explains why you gain weight and how to change that. The first thing that caught my attention about this book is … Continue reading →

No More “Enjoy Your Child While You Can”

I read an interesting blog this week from the Huffington Post. It was written by a mother of three young children. The core message was that although she understands the good intentions of those who say things like, “Enjoy them while you can” or similar sentiments such as that, she finds it a bit unnerving. She expressed how it makes her feel like she isn’t a good mom if she isn’t enjoying every moment. Because let’s face it, the reality is that not every moment in parenting is enjoyable. I certainly understood her point. It made me pause and think … Continue reading →

What You Need to Know About Your Texting Teen

If your teenager cannot connect with you on a relationship level or if that relationship is too stressful, painful, or difficult, there are plenty of other places your teen can connect. Even if your relationship is merely strained and not broken altogether, your teen has plenty of options for connection, validation, acceptance, and support apart from you. You are in competition for your teen’s connection. You are competing with peers and with technology because many of those other options for connection are only a cell phone or keypad away. It used to be that you punished a child by sending … Continue reading →

Forgiveness

My mother and her ex husband had one of those nasty drawn out divorces. It took four years before it was finalized and they were in court constantly. After going through my own divorce, which went rather smoothly and was finalized in six weeks, it was hard for me to imagine what she had gone through. It was a time she wishes she could erase from her memory. How she was able to go on day after day is beyond me, but somehow she did it. There has been very little contact between them since. When Kent comes to pick … Continue reading →

Life’s Not Fair, Get Over It

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Guilt, guilt, guilt. Sometimes I think I should change my name to include that one word. When I divorced my husband, my daughter’s father, I  had a tremendous amount of guilt. What had I done? How would it affect Hailey? Would this cause her to rebel more as a teenager? If she rebels it will be ALL MY Fault. If she turns to drugs or alcohol, it will be ALL MY FAULT, I tore her family apart. I know I didn’t do it by myself. The destruction of my marriage was a joint venture, my ex husband and I both … Continue reading →

Software Helps You Leave Legacy For Your Descendants

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As a genealogist, you spend your time searching for information about the lives of your ancestors. Have you ever given thought about how to leave your own, personal, legacy for your descendants to find? Do you have things that you want to say to living family members, or advice to give them, that you feel that you just cannot say at this time? Perhaps the software from Legacy Quest is just the thing you need. Legacy Planner Online was created by the LegacyQuest company, which is located in St. George, Utah. The purpose of the Legacy Planner Online was to … Continue reading →

Should You Tell?

Recently while watching a TV show one of the characters admitted they had had a one night stand with someone else during a time when the husband was being distant, selfish and unresponsive. There was no plan to take the one night stand further. It was in the past but the person thought they should admit it to their husband. The result was he, understandably, chucked an absolute fit. Okay so it’s just a TV show. But often TV shows reflect life. It started a discussion between Mick and I about whether the character should have told, knowing how this … Continue reading →