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Listen to Your Head

So often we hear the phrase, “listen to your heart,” but sometimes it is more important to listen to your head. I recently got out of a relationship where I let my heart get the better of me. I was hearing all the things I wanted to hear, yet my head kept telling me something wasn’t right. There were warning signs left and right, but I shoved them aside because I didn’t want to believe that they were there. I was too caught up in what my heart was feeling that I failed to listen to what my head was … Continue reading →

What Are Your Deal Breakers?

As you find yourself venturing out into the dating world again, it is crucial that you decide what your deal breakers are so that you don’t end up in another bad marriage. We all have certain things we want in a spouse. If you’re like most women you’ve been making that list from the time you were a little girl. You dreamed of how wonderful your life would be after Prince Charming came rushing in to sweep you off your feet. Then you found out Prince Charming wasn’t quite as charming as you thought and found yourself single again, but … Continue reading →

Handling Your Child’s Questions About Your Divorce

It’s bound to happen; sooner or later your kids are going to start asking questions about your divorce. It’s only natural. Even if they were very young when the event took place, they are going to have questions about why their family is different than their friend’s. As a parent, this can be scary. Their questions likely don’t have easy answers and it can be hard to decide how to approach such a sensitive topic with them. Remember to keep your answers appropriate for your child’s age and maturity. When they are younger a simple answer such as, “Mommy and … Continue reading →

Your Ancestors Tweeted Before Twitter Was Cool

Although your ancestors did not post status updates on Facebook or tweet about their adventures on Twitter, snippets of their social lives may nonetheless have been preserved for posterity. I thought about this the other day as I was reading the local newspaper. You see, I live in Randolph, Vermont. Our local newspaper, the Randolph Herald, has retained the charm of a local small town newspaper. In the paper, there are sections that talk about the events and people that were the “talk of the town” in each of the several towns in our area. Events that happened are listed … Continue reading →

Cleaning Out Your Backpack

After going through a divorce it is easy to get bogged down with negativity. We begin filling our backpacks with rock after rock after rock and before long, the weight on our shoulders is keeping us from moving forward and climbing the mountains before us. When I was going through my divorce my self-esteem was at an all time low. Every morning I would look in the mirror and start piling the rocks in my backpack. “Nobody is going to want me now.” Clunk! “I’m not pretty enough.” Clunk! “I’m not skinny enough.” Clunk! “I couldn’t keep my marriage together. … Continue reading →

Pick Your Battles

I’m a firm believer and I have blogged about picking your battles when it comes to raising teenagers. But I think the same can be said about a marriage. In fact, it seems that we tend to be a bit more nit-picky in our marriages than in any other relationship. Slight irritations can be made into huge deals. Those things we knew about our spouse when we married them suddenly becomes impossible to live with another day. But many of those irritations and frustrations we may experience in a marriage are just not worth the battle. You know the old … Continue reading →

What is a Homemaker Worth?

Do you ever feel taken for granted and undervalued as a homemaker? For many of us homemaker is our second full time job, after we do whatever it is we do all day to pay the bill, we come home and work a whole lot more. When I was younger my grandmother used to say, “A man works from sun to sun but a woman’s work is never done.” In my marriage that was true, my ex husband did very little around the house, and it’s even more true now that I’m divorced. It’s hard to place a value on … Continue reading →

The Ups and Downs of Marriage

If you have been married for any length of time, you quickly come to realize that marriage has ups and downs. Sometimes the ups are more than the downs, but it can also be the other way. Or it may be that the downs seem to last longer. The important thing is that you accept the fact that it won’t always be sunshine and roses. Sometimes people go into marriage with a certain expectation and as soon as things get difficult, they start to question if they should stay. Sometimes they don’t even take the time to question it, they … Continue reading →

Stay at Home Dads are Worth A Lot!

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Over the years, the role of a father in family life has changed considerably. Traditionally, dads went to work while moms stayed home with the kids. Now, however, stay at home dads have become more common, and more accepted. Have you ever wondered what those dads would earn if you accounted for all the work they do at home? Life insurance is designed to give your family some financial assistance after you have passed away. People understand that their life insurance policy needs to be enough to cover the salary of the spouse that the policy is for. Most people … Continue reading →

Marriage and Happiness – is it possible?

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While divorce is nothing new in this country, when I read about long-term marriages coming to an end, ala the Gore’s, the Schwarzenegger’s, and the Edward’s, I start to wonder if it is even possible to stay married forever anymore. I hear a lot about the “old days’, but I have a lot of grandparents due to multiple re-marriages. My great-grandparents remained together, but one spouse died long before the other. So maybe those that stay married forever over a real long time period are the anomalies. Maybe now that we live longer and more women are able to support … Continue reading →