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Love Can Heal Our Families

Lately I seem to be surrounded by people having babies. In my family there have been two little girls born in the last month and three little boys are due in the next few weeks. As I look at these families, the make up of them is all different. On baby will be born to a married couple with two other little ones. Both of the girls were born to moms who are in a relationship with the father but are unmarried. One will be born to a single mother with a four year old and the last will be … Continue reading →

Sometimes I Don’t Like Being a Single Parent

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I love being a parent and because I’m an optimist I always try to look on the bright side of being a single parent. It’s hard for me to admit that sometimes I don’t like being a single parent. I wouldn’t trade my daughter for anything in the world but sometimes it’s just too much. When I was first divorced and Hailey was much younger just having to be constantly available was overwhelming. When I was married I took a walk every evening for about an hour. I needed that time away just to regroup and quiet my mind. Once … Continue reading →

Married…..again?

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It seems like before the ink is dry on your divorce decree everyone starts asking you if you think you will get married again. What? I’m not really thinking much beyond what I’m going to fix for dinner and how to get time off work to have the car fixed. Now you want me to think about getting married again? It’s almost painful to say that, married again. Each of us thought that first time was forever, there wouldn’t be any “again,” yet here we are, wondering what to do next. We all want to be loved, we need to … Continue reading →

What Happily Married Couples Do

Today, my husband and I got into an argument. Neither one of us could seem to see the other person’s point of view. While he is a great strength to me, we are both tired, and exhausted much of the time due to raising 3 kids, one of which is a 2 month old, very need baby. In that environment, it is easy to get short with one another, and not realize before it is too late, and we are arguing. Without going into what our fight was about, I will say that we worked it out. We always do. … Continue reading →

Married to ADD

Do you have a spouse with ADD?? Why the condition can cause many a marriage to fail and a suggestion you can do about it. A person with ADD, whether diagnosed or not, finds it difficult to focus, difficult to listen and difficult to stay on task. Because of these symptoms, many aspects of marriage can be affected, especially in the areas of communication. Someone married to a spouse with ADD may feel frustrated, unheard and unloved, leading to even more problems. The issue gets even worse, when the “normal” spouse wants to talk out their problems while the affected … Continue reading →

Children Who Are at Risk of Being Abused

This week I watched a horrifying story on Dr. Phil about a mother who remarried and whose three girls endured years of sexual abuse by their stepfather. It was just absolutely gut-wrenching to hear what these girls endured. While I felt for the mom, a part of me couldn’t grasp how 8 years of this could go by and she had absolutely no clue. In fact, at one point Dr. Phil asked her if looking back now, could she see signs and she still says no. I certainly don’t want to point any fingers at her but what I am … Continue reading →

Plenty of Love

I love the holidays and some of my best holidays have been spent as a single parent. That doesn’t mean I don’t miss having someone to share them with. When I’m Christmas shopping or wrestling the Christmas tree alone, I wish I had a significant other to help me. This is another one of those times when having to make all the decisions yourself is overwhelming. I miss the comfort of having someone by my side, not to mention having someone to snuggle on the couch with while Hailey opens her gifts. I remember the Christmas’s when I was married, … Continue reading →

Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow

It’s funny how much things change from generation to generation. My grandparents were married for over fifty years when my grandmother died. For their generation staying married was what they did, no one looked anywhere else, they took what they had and made the best of it. My grandparents adored each other but that’s not to say they didn’t drive each other crazy sometimes too, but they stuck it out, through the good and the bad. When I was growing up my family was the odd one out. My father died when I was three so I had a step … Continue reading →

When Your Only Child Gets Married

My niece is getting married on Saturday. My sister’s only child will now be someone’s wife. Terrie and Nia have been on their own most of Nia’s life, her father chose not to take an active role in her upbringing so it’s been just the two of them. Now, Nia is getting married. As a single parent I sympathize with my sister. You want your children to grow up and leave the nest, you know they have to, it’s part of life. Everyone needs to stand on their own two feet but I think when you are a single parent … Continue reading →

The Saver and the Spender Get Married

Money is one of the leading causes of contention in marriage, and is ranked by some statisticians as the number one reason for divorce. I would say that failure to communicate about money is the real culprit, rather than money being the culprit itself. And when you have one spouse who feels more secure with money in the bank and the other spouse who gets comfort from going shopping, you have a situation where both spouses feel insecure because of the actions of the other. If he’s the saver, she may feel as though he’s depriving her of comfort, and … Continue reading →