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What Couples Argue About

I was recently reading an article from 2011 that listed the top 10 things that married couples fight about. What I was expecting wasn’t what I read. I was thinking more along the lines of fighting about finances, the raising of the children, and in-laws. But this list was quite surprising. For instance, one of the fights is about stubble in the sink. I am blessed enough to have a son and husband who shaves and doesn’t know how to wash their stubble down the drain (note the sarcasm). But have I ever gotten into a fight with my husband … Continue reading →

How to Argue with Integrity

Whenever I hear couples brag that they never argue I’m actually not impressed. First of all, I find it hard to believe but even if it is true, I actually don’t think that is healthy. We all have to eventually address difficult issues in our lives. Now of course I’m not saying that you should be having some good knock-down, drag-it-out fights. However I do believe you can argue with integrity. Think about what the word integrity means. According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary it means a “firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values.” I really like the … Continue reading →

When and Where to Argue

Fighting is something that every couple does. Some couples fight more than others. However, every couple has a disagreement every now and then. Believe it or not there is etiquette to fighting with your mate. There is a time and place to have an argument. Couples should always tactfully follow the when and where to argue. First, never fight around your parents. While it may seem comfortable for you to argue in front of your own parents, fighting in front of in laws can cause trouble with the entire family. If you continuously argue in front of your in laws, … Continue reading →

When You Have to Argue

The title of this blog may puzzle you a bit, after all, when do you have to argue? I would actually say, that in the healthiest of marriages – arguments are as much a part of it as holding hands, hugging and sharing meals together. Arguments do not have to be fights, in fact, the best arguments aren’t fights. Arguments Can Be Mentally Stimulating A good argument can be debating the merits of a novel or how to plan the garden out for the spring planting. A good argument can be a healthy debate over the merits of one spouse’s … Continue reading →

Jim Nabors Marries in Seattle

As you know, same-sex marriage has been in the news – A LOT!  Gays are still fighting to be like regular couples while many heterosexuals feel that marriage should be reserved for males and females. Some oppose homosexuality because they say that lifestyle is more promiscuous than heterosexuality.  I beg to differ and here is a prime example. On January 15th, actor/singer Jim Nabors, best known for played the television character “Gomer Pyle,” left his home in Hawaii to travel to Seattle, but he didn’t travel alone.  No, Nabors took Stan Cadwallader with him.  Cadwallader has been Nabor’s partner for … Continue reading →

What Not to Do in Front of Your Kids When It Comes to Money

Children learn what they see. It is a true statement for any kind of behavior including money management. Children’s attitudes toward money and whether or not they will be able to make it work for them as adults has much to do with their parents. If you are married, think about any differences that there might be between you and your spouse, regarding any issues having to do with money. Is one of you more a saver than a spender? Do you approach investing or debt the same way? Chances are that you may each have different ideas about handling … Continue reading →

Arguing Your Way to Divorce?

Although infidelity is probably one of the biggest reasons for couples to divorce, I did a little research on some of the other causes. One thing I found (and was a little surprised about) is that arguing is another big reason for ending a marriage. So why am I surprised? Maybe it’s my own deluded thinking, but doesn’t every couple argue? Okay…I know, I know. Arguing once-in-a-while and every single day is very different. I will give you that. But arguing in itself doesn’t seem to be a good reason to divorce. The act of disagreeing, fighting or whatever else … Continue reading →

Ditching the Husband to Hang with the In-Laws

The in-laws can be a dreaded part of the marriage experience, for some more so than others, and especially for the wife facing her husband’s family. I’ve had a little tension with Jonathan’s relatives, but overall my experience with them has been overwhelmingly positive. In fact, I don’t always need Jonathan around as a “buffer” or even just as an excuse, to spend time with his relatives. Jon’s part of a big family so there are a number of people with whom for me to interact. I first really hit it off with his older sister. We’re very similar in … Continue reading →

When the Pressure Is On

When the pressure is on, the tension in a marriage can really mount. While it isn’t the most pleasant feeling, sometimes you just have to go with it. You have to allow for those ugly moments and know that you will make it through. That is exactly where my marriage has been at for over a week now. We have been experiencing a lot of uncertainty about when our 18-year-old son is leaving for basic training. We are told one thing one day and something else another day. It is frustrating because we are trying to emotionally prepare ourselves for … Continue reading →

Those Rough Patches

No matter how long you have been married, you can expect to go through some rough patches. It would be nice if everything could remain blissful but that just isn’t reality. I think the first step in learning how to handle the rough patches is being able to accept the fact they will happen. If you go into a marriage with the idea that it will always be peaches and cream, you aren’t being realistic. Now you might be thinking about a couple right now that you consider being pretty extraordinary. They never seem to have rough patches. I guarantee … Continue reading →