Warning Signs a Marriage Is in Trouble

by Dale Harcombe | More from this Blogger

24 May 2009 05:03 PM

On the radio yesterday I heard this comment, 'our senses warn us of danger, we hear it, we see it, we react.' What about in your marriage? Are your senses warning you of the danger in your marriage? Or are you ignoring the warning signs? Here are some of the warning signs that all is not right with your marriage. Many of these have been brought up in the forums.

1. You no longer find your spouse attractive and want to make love with your spouse or even kiss and cuddle up.

2. You find habits your spouse has that were once endearing are now annoying

3. You never spend time together as a couple. When you do you're watching a DVD or the TV rather than talking or playing a game or going for a walk together.

4. You or your spouse keeps harking back to past arguments. Instead of letting them go you turn them into a scorekeeping contest.

5. You no longer walk hand in hand or arm in arm. Physical contact is minimal

6. You don't laugh together.

7. You don't have common interests but are always pursuing independent activities.

8. You are critical of things your spouse does. No matter what your spouse does it's not right or your spouse is critical of everything you do. Constant criticism is very hard to live with.

9. Has your spouse suddenly started to take a renewed interest in their appearance, wear a new perfume or cologne, and take on extra activities outside of the home?

10. You feel like you are the only one putting any effort into the marriage and wonder whether it is worth it. When you try and talk about the perceived problems in your marriage your spouse refuses to discuss them

11. As soon as your spouse makes a comment you immediately get defensive or start to feel inadequate.

12. You no longer want to tell your spouse about your day. Or you feel your spouse isn't interested anyway.

13. Marriage has become a chore and a duty rather than a joy.

Let me know if you think there are other warning signs that a marriage is in trouble. Join me tomorrow for some tips about what to do about these warning signs.

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