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Who Would I Be?

This long holiday weekend I’ve been busy cleaning and decorating, which has given me lots of time to think. We all wonder when we get divorced if we are doing the right thing, if maybe we shouldn’t have stuck it out, at least for the kids. I can finally say that I did the right thing. My divorce was the best thing that has ever happened to me. As I look around my home, at my things, I can be proud that I worked to provide these things for my daughter. When I got divorced my ex husband got everything, … Continue reading →

Family Influence on Mental Health

I’ve been wondering and I’ve come to the conclusion that like so many other things in life, our mental health often represents our upbringing. I look at one side of my family. At my grandmother’s level of the family tree there were ten siblings. They were raised in a strong Catholic family, learned to help take care of one another (with ten of them, what more could you do), rely on one another, and be open and honest. Family was the focus of their lives. They had twelve people in a three bedroom house, so there was no choice but … Continue reading →

Making a House a Home

Whether it is a brand new home or one that has been previously lived in, when you buy or rent a new place, you want to make it feel like your own and put your own stamp on it. You want it to feel like a place you want to be in, where you are comfortable.You want it to feel like home. This will happen as you start to spread out your own bits and pieces you have chosen or been given that you love. But allow for the fact that tastes change. As we looked back at some of … Continue reading →

Surprise Babies

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This month I’m going to share with you a few very special stories about surprise babies. There are no such things as “accidents” when it comes to babies, only unexpected blessings. Sometimes we have a hard time accepting the timing of these little bundles, but children have a way of stealing our hearts despite the circumstances. Sometimes the timing is nothing short of miraculous! I look forward to telling you the story of Heather and her precious little girl, Lily. Heather overcame countless obstacles in her TTC journey and her pregnancy was nothing short of a miracle. I will be … Continue reading →

A Basic Human Right

Are you depriving your children of a basic human right? Shelter, food and love are basic human rights and ones that all children deserve to experience. But UK author Michael Morpurgo, has added another to that list. His view is that parents who don’t read to their children are depriving them of a basic human right. I agree. You might say time is the problem. I heard someone on the radio the other day say ‘time is a luxury item these days.’ Maybe so. But we all have the same number of hours in a day. No matter how busy … Continue reading →

Paris Wants a Baby

And I want a new car. So the stage is set. Who will get her prize first? Sadly, it looks as though the odds are in Paris Hilton’s favor. After all, this is a girl who doesn’t take kindly to the word “no” and does worse when confronted with situations that don’t go her way. Remember when a judge had the audacity to send her back to jail? So yesterday the socialite set a baby deadline for herself. According to the 27-year-old hotel heiress she wants to start a family with her boyfriend of three months Benji Madden in 2009. … Continue reading →

Thinking about Cravings

I just sat down and ate a bag of reduced-fat microwave popcorn with Magic Shell chocolate syrup on top. It’s not as gross as it sounds, really! (I like salty and sweet together.) That snack was my compromise. What I REALLY wanted was to head to Cold Stone Creamery and get a crazy ice cream concoction. My sweet tooth was in overdrive, and I had to do something. The choco-popcorn satisfied the craving without making me feel too guilty about eating something bad for me. According to a study from Tufts University, most women experience strong cravings — more than … Continue reading →

When to Send Emotional Overdraft Notices

Back in November a Families.com family member, EmptyMarriage, posted a thread in the Marriage & Relationships Forum: Where do I go from here? For some reason I just happened to see it today. Even though I replied and gave some suggestions for how I would approach her problem, I can’t get her off my mind. The Situation EmptyMarriage has been married 20 years, has two daughters, and has weathered the other ups and downs in her marital life, but on this down she’s feeling like she doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. Her husband isn’t attentive, doesn’t participate, … Continue reading →

Do You Kiss Your Pets Goodnight?

For a few years now Murph and I have had a routine whereby I snuggle up with him before I climb into bed. It started because he wasn’t always allowed to sleep on the bed with us so I’d sidle up next to him on the floor (he had a bed but he didn’t always start out sleeping on it at nights) and tell him what a great dog he’d been that day. These days he’s allowed to sleep with us on the bed, but he still starts out on the floor most nights. And if I don’t take a … Continue reading →

Weighing In On…A Husband Who Recruits Female Friends

Last week I sent invitations to friends to become Amazon Friends and Shelfari Friends. One invite went to a writer friend I hadn’t talked to in a couple of weeks. We had the usual “How’re things?” chat, in which she mentioned she was having a less than stellar day. I asked if everything was okay and offered an ear if she needed it. Well, she took me up on it, and for the past few days we’ve had an interesting exchange. I was shocked to learn this beautiful and talented woman (who has asked I please keep her identity anonymous, … Continue reading →