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Dealing with Jealousy

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Jealousy can be a big issue in some relationships. Some partners find that they become very controlling and obsessive when in a relationship. Others feel more secure and are comfortable with their mate being around others of the opposite sex. There is a line that can be drawn between being too jealous and too lax in your relationship. While you do not want to put your mate in the old ball and chain, you also want to be able to recognize when something is not right. Jealousy is not always something that can be controlled. Some people, women especially, become … Continue reading →

Thoughts on Polygamy

With the raid on the polygamist compound in Texas headline news lately, I’ve been thinking about polygamy probably more than I ever have before in my life. The Husbands Watching the news, I’d be led to believe that the husbands in polygamist unions are all abusive, dirty old men who use religion as justification for having sex with young girls. Maybe some of them do. But what about the ones who don’t? What about the ones who have committed themselves to many wives because their religion ordains it and they firmly believe in their doctrines? How do they emotionally and … Continue reading →

When Jealousy is a Concern

In my recent jealousy series I have given my thoughts and opinions about jealousy. I have listed some reasons why I feel that some people are jealous. I have even discussed why I feel that jealous to some extent is normal and okay. In the articles listed above it may appear that jealous is a positive feeling. In this article, I will address the negative side of being jealous. While I still feel that jealousy in moderation is not harmful, when taken to extreme jealousy can have a very negative impact on a relationship. A continuous feeling of jealousy is … Continue reading →

Thoughts on Jealousy

Ask and you shall receive. In a previous article, I discussed the different feelings that may occur when one runs into an ex boyfriend or girlfriend. In the comments section, a reader posted that she was still very close to her ex boyfriend. Now that they are both in new relationships, the couples meet and visit together. I along with another reader responded that we would likely be too jealous to have our boyfriends or husbands hang out with an ex. In the comments, JadeWalker questioned the jealousy. She even suggested that it might be a good topic for an … Continue reading →

Adoption Blog Month in Review, April 2007: Part Two

Please see Part One of this blog for updates on adoption blog writers and highlights from late March and early April. In Feeling Different from Family? I muse on finding the right balance between acknowledging our daughters’ different ethnicity and heritage and overemphasizing them. My daughter puts my fears at least temporarily at rest with this zinger—check it out. In How Do You Introduce Yourself to Your Own Child? -Part One: Prepare Them I talk about things adoptive parents can do, even from a distance, to prepare their child for the transition, such as sending photos, tapes, and even a … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Jealousy is Not a Positive Sign in a Relationship

When we think of someone getting jealous, we think that it means they must really care about us. Jealousy is not a positive sign in a relationship though because jealousy is a very negative emotion. The idea that you can test someone’s love for you by flirting with another person and that how your spouse reacts is an indicator of their love is not only faulty, it’s dangerous. Jealousy has its roots low self-esteem and fear. People are more likely to be jealous when they don’t believe they are lovable or that they are not worthy of being loved. They … Continue reading →

Watch Your Words

Whether we like it or not, our words define us. They reveal out thoughts and heart attitudes. Jesus knew this. See Matthew 12:34-37 and Mark 7:15-23.You know it too. Listen to someone you know talk. It is easy to pick up clues about the type of person they are from the words they say and the tone of voice in which it is said. Impatience stubbornness, anger, impatience, jealousy will all show up in a person’s words or tone. So will love, gentleness, generosity, patience. Before you jump in and add your thoughts to a conversation, can I suggest you … Continue reading →

The Curious Case of Sister-Wives

The other night I stayed up late watching TV because I couldn’t sleep. I ended up tuning into a show called “The Secret Lives of Women.” Apparently the show’s a series and features insight into different aspects of women’s lives. The night I watched the topic was polygamy. I have to admit, other than what I’ve seen from the media, I don’t know much about polygamy. I knew the concept of multiple wives sprung from religious beliefs, but I’ve never understood why any woman would sign up for that type of marriage. (Unless if she was forced into it, like … Continue reading →

Even Rock Star Wives Sing the Blues

One afternoon not too long ago as I was folding laundry I was watching True Hollywood Story: Rock Star Wives. It was sensational. Some of the rock stars profiled included Dee Snider (Twisted Sister), Alice Cooper, Duff Mckagan (Guns N’ Roses, Velvet Revolver), Slash (Guns N’ Roses), and Vince Neil (Motley Crue). Both the wives and the rock stars were surprisingly candid about the trials and tribulations their marriages experienced. What struck me most was how so many of the marriages had encountered every kind of worst case scenario imaginable. And I’m not talking about just one kind of worst … Continue reading →

Marriage Week in Review: January 7 – January 13

Wow this has been quite a week in the marriage section of Families.com! Courtney and I have kept the articles coming and the topics rolling! In case you missed one of the discussions, check out below for headlines from the week! Monday, January 7 Is He the Man of Your Dreams? In this article I discuss how some women take it to the extreme constantly downing their husbands. While no human is perfect, in our eyes our spouse should be close. Running into an Ex This article received several comments. In it, I discussed the different feelings that we may … Continue reading →