Things to Talk about before Marriageby Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger 12 Jan 2008 07:10 PM Deciding to get married is a big step in a relationship. In some long and lengthy relationships, it seems that marriage is the only step left to take. In other relationships, marriage comes quicker and more as a surprise. No matter how the decision to get married comes about, there are some things that a couple should consider and discuss before taking the plunge into forever together. When we make other important decisions in our life, we weigh the options, research, and give it much consideration. However, it seems that some people put little thought into spending the rest of their lives with another. More thought actually goes into planning the wedding than the ever after. Money Before marriage, couples should discuss their finances. How will the bills be paid and how will money be saved. What kind of budget will the couple live on? What is each partner's spending style? What types of accounts will you have? How much will your combined income be? Sex Believe it or not sex should also be talked about before marriage. Most couples have a hard time expressing their feelings about their love life. It is impossible for each mate to know what the other needs or wants without discussion of the subject. It may be awkward at first but talking about it can save a lot of confusion and heartache in the future. Children You think that a topic this big would be discussed right from the beginning. However before marriage, many couples never talk about whether or not they want children. If you want children, you normally assume that your partner does also. This may not always be the case. For those of us who have never thought of life without babies, it can be hard to believe that there are those out there who never see themselves with children. The Biggest Challenges to Marriage Learn more about Lyn Newton  Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments  Jade Walker (964) 14 Jan 2008 08:51 AMExcellent suggestions, Lyn. I would also throw in discussions about religion, politics, work, future goals and health. Giving yourselves time to get to know each other before rushing into marriage is also wise. I've always believed in the Four Seasons Rule: know each other for a full year, or four seasons, before considering marriage. Over the course of a year, a couple will surely endure good times and bad, deaths/births, job changes, friendship issues, illnesses, etc. How a couple responds to each of these situations will be a good indication of whether marriage is in the cards.  Lyn Newton (3966) 14 Jan 2008 06:29 PMAre you a marriage counselor? You have great ideas for couples! Discuss this article
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