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How to Handle Bullying

October is a month that has been dedicated to the anti-bullying initiative, however, this is something that should be addressed continually throughout the year. It is something we are all familiar with, but when your child becomes the victim of it, it can be difficult to decide how to handle the situation. Teach your children early on that it’s not okay for anyone to treat them poorly. If one of the kids hurt their feelings at school, be sure to tell them that just because someone said something mean about them doesn’t make it true. Let them know that it … Continue reading →

Stress and Our Bodies

We all know how damaging stress can be on our bodies. It is a natural phenomenon that we all experience from time to time. If you have gone through a divorce you are all too familiar with the stresses that go along with it, not only for you, but for your children as well. There are so many changes that happen all at once. Everyone’s roles shift as they are trying to navigate this new journey and it isn’t always easy. Everyone is dealing with their own set of emotions and trying to deal with them in their own way. … Continue reading →

Losing Your Identity

Have you ever heard someone speak against marriage because they didn’t want to “lose their identity?” I have to say that I think this is a valid concern for anyone considering a walk down the aisle. I totally believe in the biblical concept that the “two shall become one.” I think your lives must become so intertwined that it is no longer only about you. Now you have to consider someone else’s thoughts and feelings before making decisions. Two become one in making financial decisions, raising the children, and so on. But that doesn’t mean you should lose your identity. … Continue reading →

Appreciate Your Differences

Do you appreciate the differences between you and your spouse? Or do you find them to be more of an aggravation? It’s funny how when you first meet someone, those differences can be endearing but over time, they can become frustrating. Sometimes I have to catch myself falling prey to this. I can look at the differences between us and feel like he needs to change. But in reality, it is who he is. And just as I expect him to accept me, I need to do the same. Take the way we respond to stress. It is very different. … Continue reading →

The Way We Handle Our Emotions

If you haven’t learned this already, you will…the way men and women handle their emotions is very different. But knowing this and learning how to accept it are two different things. Of course, it doesn’t always have to do with the fact that men and women are different. Personalities and characteristics come into play as well. For instance, my husband is very laidback. It takes a lot to rattle his cage. In fact, this week we dealt with a behavior issue with one of our children that almost set me off into a fit. But as my husband witnessed the … Continue reading →

Trusting Your Spouse

As I mentioned before, I have a friend who’s getting married soon, and she’s been full of questions about marriage and how to make relationships work. As we’ve talked, I’ve noticed a common theme in many of my answers to her – the theme of trust. When you agree to marry someone, that is the first big step of trust you take. You’re telling them, “I trust you to be my partner and to take care of my emotional needs.” As you enter into the marriage, you’re telling them, “I trust you to be honest with me and to be … Continue reading →

Fair-weather Friends

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It is not uncommon for parents of children with special needs to lose friendships either immediately upon diagnosis, or slowly over the course of time. Having a child with a disability or health condition changes parents’ perspective, completely alters their schedules, and wipes clean the picture perfect future they had planned. Friends often don’t know what to say or how to help and end up distancing themselves. If you have lost friendships since your child was diagnosed with a condition, try not to be angry. Some people cannot face you due to the guilt they feel of having giving birth … Continue reading →

Dealing with the Diagnosis of Your Child

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My daughter was only a delicate six-day-old baby when the pediatrician’s office called and asked my husband and me to come to the office at 6 o’clock on a Friday night. He told us, frankly, that she had cystic fibrosis and followed it up with a “but people with CF are living into their 30s now”, as if those words could comfort us. At the time, I didn’t know what CF was, let alone that half of those who have it don’t live to be 37. Almost immediately, the normal baby blues turned into a deep depression. And for the … Continue reading →

How To Handle Disagreements – Part 2

So, you’re finding yourself at odds with someone in your church, family or neighborhood. What can you do about it? Someone once said that ‘the faults we notice most in others are those we have ourselves.’ So before we start criticizing and trying to sort out the other person and their thinking and attitudes, it’s a good idea to look at our own lives and ask the Lord to show us what needs to be changed there. Too often we are reluctant to do that. But that’s what growing as a Christian is all about, changing to become more like … Continue reading →

Dealing with Children’s Emotions

As your baby moves into the toddler age, then on into adolescence he or she will experience bouts of anger. The bottom line is that different children handle change and stress in a unique way. During more stressful times, one child may become quiet and withdrawn while another child explodes in fits of anger. As a single parent, you have the responsibility of teaching your child that being upset is normal but with boundaries. Reacting to your child who is in a fit of anger with your own anger will only escalate the situation. Instead, react with a calm voice … Continue reading →