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Grieving Your Marriage

Whether the divorce was wanted or not it is still ok to grieve what could have and should have been. We all want nothing more than for our kids to have their parents together, to have what I like to call that “fantasy family,” the one where you and your kids all live happily ever after. When I first got divorced, no one could understand why I was so devastated. The marriage had been a disaster long before it had even started. I was miserable and didn’t even realize it, but I wanted it back. I did not want to … Continue reading →

Marriages Need to Grow

Those who have been through marriage preparation classes could perhaps be better prepared for the reality of marriage. They’re a good idea but they still don’t have all the answers. Basically we can discuss issues before we are married. Mick and I did. We talked about children, money, other family members, religion and anything else that came to mind and that’s great. But sometimes those held views change over time and we need to rethink. That’s when we need to make sure the lines of communication stay open. Good, lasting marriages don’t just happen. Like gardens they need time to … Continue reading →

Your Marriage Doesn’t Have to be Boring

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Throughout a marriage, the partners go through all different types of stages. There are times of passion and intense love when things could not be better. There are also times of frustration and dissatisfaction when things seem to be falling apart. I once heard a woman complain that her husband was boring. She complained that he only wanted to sit around on the couch and watch television in his free time. When she asked him about going out on the weekends he always had rather stay at home. He spent his days working or doing yard work. This happens in … Continue reading →

Marriage Week in Review: June 16 – June 22

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This week Marriage topics have taken us from the books, to the media, to the theories behind attachments. Check below for any articles that you may have missed out on during the week! Monday, June 16 Conception without Communication This article discusses women and men who try to pregnant without the knowledge of their mates. Tuesday, June 17 Can a Baby Save Your Marriage? This article takes a look at the effect that having a baby can have on your marriage. Some feel that getting pregnant will help the marriage or relationship last. “Just Do It”- 101 Days of Sex … Continue reading →

Marriage Types: Later Life

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So far we have discussed covenant marriages, second marriages, and polygamous marriages. It is amazing how many different types of relationship bonds couples can have. Even traditional marriages can come in various forms. Couples marry at all different stages in their lives and for all different reasons. Some couples marry later in their lives. There are several different reasons why a person may put marriage on hold during what most consider to be the common marrying years. Some couples do not marry until they are in their late 30s or 40s. Some people wish to get married before this age … Continue reading →

Facing a Marriage Crisis

In a previous article I wrote about how alone I’ve felt lately. It’s to the point where I’m asking, “What’s the point of this relationship? Mostly he’s good to me, yes –when he’s available. And once in a while he does incredibly thoughtful things like how he did when he welcomed my mom. But the job is all-consuming anymore and he rarely has time for me. Not even when it’s serious stuff like it has been with my mom. And I don’t know if it really has to be that way, or if he’s using work as an excuse to … Continue reading →

Big Changes in a Little Marriage

On Wednesday March 12 my sister took my mom to Rocky Mountain Urgent Care in Aurora, Colorado, after my mom called her saying she didn’t feel right, she felt like she was going to die and could my sister please come take her somewhere, anywhere after she got off work. When they got to the urgent care center my mom’s oxygen saturation level was at 71 percent so they took some x-rays. The pneumonia she’d had last year had returned –and the nodules on her lung they’d also spotted last year had grown. The Nodules My mom was afraid of … Continue reading →

Marriage Can Make You Smarter

A study from Brigham Young University recently reported that a happy marriage could lower your blood pressure. Now neuroscience is noticing that marriage can make you smarter, too. In the early stages of a relationship (that first, exciting rush of love), your brain might not be in the right state for intellectual pursuits. A lot of the beginnings of love are driven by the euphoric feelings that come from dopamine — a brain chemical that produces powerful, pleasurable feelings. As relationships mature, dopamine levels become less important and other parts of the brain are engaged. In the later stages of … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review for December 17-23

Merry Christmas Eve! ‘Tis the season to be even busier than usual, but maybe today you have some time to catch up on things. Such as reading the Marriage Blog. If you missed any of last week’s musings from Lyn and myself, check out this edition of the Week in Review to see what we wrote on: Monday, December 17 How Much are You Willing to Give? Lyn proposed situations of spouses giving and wondered which ones would be giving too much and would warrant a “No!” Why Nookie Should Be on Your Christmas Wish List A report I saw … Continue reading →

The Final Stages

My latest series of articles has approached the various stages that couples go through in a marriage or long standing relationship. How a couple moves through the stages can make the difference in the future of the couple. As you know, the first stage of marriage is often joked about. In many cases we will hear people comment on how a newlywed couple is still “on the honeymoon”. In other words, they have not hit reality. Reality usually hits hard in stage two. Couples no longer feel that their partners are perfect. Things begin to annoy, aggravate, and irritate one … Continue reading →