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Balancing Your Time

Childless couples face some different problems than couples with kids, but some of our issues are the same. One problem that I think any married couple has is spending time with one another. The specifics of the problem, however, vary whether or not children are in the equation. It’s well-known that finding time, period, when you have kids is a common conundrum. Finding time to do household chores, take a shower, spend time with your spouse, and still have some alone time can all be troublesome depending how many and what age children you have. Obviously Jon and I don’t … Continue reading →

Enjoying the Holidays One At a Time

I was shopping three weeks ago at a popular store and was a little surprised. Now maybe it happened last year, but I don’t think so or it would not have struck me so hard. Mind you, it was around the second week in October that this occurred. While I was making my way around the store shopping for various items for my household I maneuvered my cart around the corner to proceed to the next aisle. As I carefully wheeled my cart around the corner there it was, a Christmas tree. Really, mass merchant chain store? This year you … Continue reading →

Ways to Reduce Stress on Your Marriage at Christmas

Yesterday I looked at some of the pressure on couples during the Christmas season and a couple of suggestions for easing the tension. Here are some other suggestions you might want to consider implementing. Don’t go overboard with gifts. Some people are generous by nature and love to give gifts. I admit I’m a person who loves to buy presents for those I love, so this is something I have to watch. But it can backfire and have a negative effect. The problem with going overboard is twofold. Firstly, it is not helpful if you spend more than you can … Continue reading →

Take Time for Yourself This Holiday Season

Parents of children with special needs are notorious for not setting aside any time to themselves. They work day and night to care for their children and rarely take even fifteen minutes to relax. During the holidays, it only gets worse. There is so much more to do and so many projects to take care of this time of year that by the time the holidays are over, parents haven’t gotten to really enjoy any of the festivities. Make this year different. Give yourself the gift of day off. Get a friend, relative or respite care provider to watch your … Continue reading →

Adapting to the Holidays as a Married Couple

Our neighborhood held trick-or-treating last night to avoid going out on the Sabbath, and my kids had a ton of fun dressing up and heading out to collect their loot. I took them around, and my husband stayed home to hand out candy to those who came to our house. This is very representative of our personality styles. I’m the one who likes to go out and do things. I can more comfortably navigate my way through social circumstances, and because I’m the “mean” parent, I can herd four overly excited children up and down the street. My husband likes … Continue reading →

Holidays with Family

This is the last one, I promise, on the subject of holidays. This time it’s looking at holidays with family. It could mean just taking your children on a holiday but I was thinking more of holidays with in laws or siblings or other family members. A lot of how a holiday with family goes depends on how well the family gets along and how comfortable and relaxed they are in each other’s company. If your spouse doesn’t get along well with your parents, or even if you don’t, then a holiday with family is not going to be the … Continue reading →

Holidays and Marriage – Part 3

One of the biggest considerations for your marriage with a holiday plan is whether you are going to camp. For many families this is a cheap alternative. But unless you are the type of people who enjoy this sort of thing, then don’t even consider it. For Mick and me, camping would not be a holiday but a nightmare. I would rather stay home than go camping. Thankfully Mick feels the same. As a result we could probably count on or fingers, maybe even one hand, the number of holidays we have taken in our married life. And that’s okay. … Continue reading →

Holidays and Marriage- Part 2

There are other considerations you might need to take into account regarding holidays and your marriage. One is how much planning. Do you want to stay in one place or keep moving? Some people are happy to get in the car or on the plane or train and go off and let the holiday just happen. Others would prefer to plan well beforehand. This can have advantages in getting better hotel or bed and breakfasts deals if you plan but it may mean ending up staying longer at a place even if you don’t like it overly because up have … Continue reading →

The Right Holiday for Your Marriage

Are you taking the right sort of holiday – the one that is right for your marriage? The reality is when it comes to holidays, not all of us want or need the same sort of thing. For some people, in a busy lifestyle with a marriage where both partners are working long hours, the answer may be a holiday at the beach or somewhere they can just relax and not do a lot at all. It can be a time of renewal, of recharging the batteries and being able to spend more time just enjoying each other’s company. But … Continue reading →

Do Holidays Always Include Extended Family?

My husband and I chose to spend Mother’s Day with his parents this year. They were willing to come to our house, which worked great for me, because our baby is always happier in the comfort of our home. While my daughter napped, my mother-in-law and I relaxed in front of the TV (finally, I was able to watch TLC instead of ESPN). Our husbands slaved away in the kitchen, working to prepare a delicious Mother’s Day meal. We admired the flowers we’d been given and enjoyed the feeling of putting our feet up. After lunch, the whole gang headed … Continue reading →