The Marriage Revolutionby Heather Long | More from this Blogger 21 Feb 2006 08:34 AM The state of marriage changed over the years. When our grandparents got married, there was no expectation of divorce. They knew that they were going to have to work together to get things done. That meant sometimes they had two jobs and took care of their children. Sometimes that meant one partner had to travel for their work or even stayed miles away while they worked. Modern marriage does not come with such assurances or understanding. Modern marriage has a loophole. It's called divorce. We are not as inspired to work out our problems or find solutions as we should be. The climbing divorce rate is a demonstrable of that attitude.  Marriage is hard. It's difficult and it's not the easiest thing you will ever do. Marriage is not a fairy tale and it's not perfect. We are not characters in a Bogart/Bacall movie, we are real, flesh-and-blood, imperfect individuals. When we get married, we make a commitment and that commitment should mean more than: '... until I'm done.' I'm not talking about staying in an abusive relationship or allowing you to be terrorized. Heck no. When that occurs, get out. Think about the vows you make:
My husband and I don't always get along. Sometimes we have some pretty huge disagreements. On some of them, we've agreed to disagree. Examine your expectations of marriage and ask your partner about theirs. And remember, expectations will change over the years. What your expectations were when you were first married will not be identical to the expectations we have today. Your expectations will be different ten years from now. Accepting the evolution of your relationship is the marriage revolution. Who you are when you first met, when you first married and who you are today and tomorrow are all different. You become more and change over time as will your spouse. Embracing those changes, celebrating them and taking advantage of them will strengthen your relationship.
Enjoy your marriage revolution and remember for every worse, there is a better. For every poorer, there is a richer and for every sickness, there is health. Learn more about Heather Long  Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments  Lisa P (24013) 21 Feb 2006 09:11 PMSometimes keeping it together isn't easy but it is extremely rewarding when you can get through the tough times and make it to even better times. My husband and I will celebrate our 7th anniversary tomorrow. I can honestly say that the highs get higher and the lows get lower - but the highs come a lot more often than the lows!  Teresa McEntire (2984) 24 Feb 2006 11:29 PMWhen I got married by Dad told to never think of divorce as an option. Marriage is forever and you have to choose to stay in love everyday regardless of your life's circumstances. My marriage isn't always easy, but when I find myself thinking divorce would be easier I remember my Dad's advice and put it out of my mind. Discuss this article
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