The Jealous Single Friendby Sherry Holetzky | More from this Blogger 18 Oct 2006 05:53 AM If you were recently married, you may still have some single friends that you are fairly close to. There is of course, nothing wrong with that, but sometimes the single friend can be trouble. You may find that your friend is jealous of your marriage. It may be that the person is jealous that you are married and he or she is not, or it may be that your friend is jealous of all the time you spend with your spouse. Either way, don't let the jealous single friend create problems between you and your mate. You can, and should, still go out with your friends sometimes, just be careful not to do anything that gives your spouse suspicions. For example, you probably don't want to be hanging out in the club that your ex frequents, especially without your spouse. Making your husband or wife doubtful, suspicious, or jealous is not good for your relationship. Your friend may also talk ugly about your spouse at times. If you get the least bit frustrated and complain, your friend is likely to not only agree, but exaggerate your mate's fault's as well. Don't fall into the trap of seeing your spouse through an envious acquaintance's eyes. It's also not a good idea to share too much private information with this kind of person. It has a way of coming back to bite you. The pal might actually use it against you to get you and your spouse into an argument. It's been done. Then, your pal will undoubtedly say, "Let's get out of here." You'll most likely regret it. Again, there's nothing wrong with maintaining friendships with single people after you get married. You just have to make sure you know which ones are your real friends. Learn more about Sherry Holetzky  Sherry Holetzky is a work at home mom and freelance writer. Married to her best friend, Sherry and her husband are raising their family in a quiet rural setting in the beautiful Ozark Mountains. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments AshleyTou (5) 17 Nov 2008 11:36 AMSherry Holetzky obviously thinks she is better than everyone else because she is married (as if that is some kind of rare achievement); that single people are beneath her devious and calculating and that they have nothing better to do than be jealous of her and try to destroy a marriage. She says there is "nothing wrong" with maintaining friendships with single people after you are married yet has to clarify that after your wedding single people are suddenly not "real" friends. My friends are not different people after I got married, and I am not somehow better or above them. Being married is not something to lord over someone else; it is a different chapter in your life. Sherry is just too smug to realize that her single friends are most likely NOT jealous of her, they probably dropped HER since they were tired of hearing her brag and making them feel inferior. Before I was married, my married friends used to assume they were somehow better. It showed me who MY real friends were. Now I have been married ten years, so Sherry- a reminder- all married people were single once. Let's not forget that. Sherry Holetzky (11404) 20 Nov 2008 11:11 AMAshley Tou obviously has a reading comprehension problem. Words like "a" friend, "may" and make sure you know "which ones" are your real friends should have made it clear that this is certainly not about ALL single friends. Before attacking someone,you might try reading what was actually written instead of assigning motives that only exist in your mind. Community Tags privacy, singles, single friend Discuss this article
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