The Gift of Unconditional Acceptance

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Unconditional acceptance of another person is a wonderful thing that is very difficult to achieve, and maybe impossible to achieve 100 percent. But that is okay. The more effort and understanding we put into our marriages, along with a good dose of love, the closer we can come to this ideal.

When you first meet someone and then fall in love with him or her, the whole thing is rather exciting. You may find yourself overlooking the other person's faults (and we all have them) or trying to cover up your own. But marriage is all about trust, to whatever rules you both decide. And giving someone the gift of unconditional acceptance is one of the greatest things you can do.

Many times we accept things in other people but don't give our spouses the same courtesy. We may excuse a beloved sibling or friend for some "quirk," but chew out our spouses for the slightest contrary behavior, contrary to our own standards of course. But how amazing would it be, if you could look your spouse in the eye and tell him or her that you love and accept unconditionally.

I first really learned about unconditional acceptance when I met my husband. Then the three children being born to use honed that awareness even more. Think about a new life that comes into the world. You love this little baby despite the fact that it poops on itself or cries for hours with colic. It may tire you out, but you certainly don't love the baby any less. You accept that this is just who he or she is at the moment.

Adults are a little different of course, but we all have harmless things that we can't or don't want to change. Of course, I am not talking about things that cause harm, such as abuse or infidelity. But, instead of focusing on the little "bad" things that we don't like about our spouses, we can instead make our opinions gently known, offer alternatives or solutions but then ultimately decide to accept things for what they are.

What do you think?

Mary Ann Romans writes about everything related to saving money in the Frugal Blog, creating a home in the Home Blog, caring for little ones in the Baby Blog and now relationships in the Marriage Blog. You can read more of her articles by clicking here.

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Mary Ann Romans is a freelance writer, online content manager, wife and mother of three children. She lives in Pennsylvania in the middle of the woods but close enough to Target and Home Depot.

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