The Five Things You Don't Want In Your Marriage (Part II)

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We talked about the Five Things You Don't Want In Your Marriage earlier today. Here is the rest of the list.

Walking Away In Silence

Sometimes, when we're angry - we may elect to just walk away from the fight. We can do this for any number of reasons, but if you walk away in silence you may leave your spouse floundering behind. It's advisable to always assume good intentions, it's not realistic to expect your spouse to read your minds.

Rather than walk away in silence, say something. If you need a break to collect your thoughts and avoid a fight, tell your spouse that. If you need time to calm down; tell your spouse that. You will eliminate many disagreements and misunderstandings by clearly stating why you are walking away and you are communicating your respect and your needs by letting your spouse know.

Who Needs Fashion Attitude

Honestly, once you become a parent - getting dressed up or worrying about how you look is usually the last thing on your mind. You may remember it used to be nice for you and your spouse to get dressed up for each other, but you're too busy now.

Take the time to clean up and have a care with your appearance. It communicates to your spouse that you care how you look for them. It shows them a measure of caring and respect for their opinion. It can be as simple as picking out a nice blouse, a pretty or simple hairstyle and even a little bit of jewelry. You likely enjoy it when they look nice, imagine how they feel about when you look nice.

The Public Put Down

When you and your spouse are out and they start telling a story or a tale and you know it didn't go that way. Don't interrupt them or say so in front of others. It's incredibly belittling and it can offer insult to your spouse. It can look like showing off and it can be incredibly embarrassing.

Rather than correct your spouse, enjoy their pleasure at telling the story. My husband loves to tell tall tales and if they are inflicting no harm on anyone, enjoy their eagerness and their joy. Consider how you would feel if your spouse corrected you in front of others? If what they are saying reflects on you, let them know - privately - that you do not care for that type of thing. You can still get your thoughts across without embarrassing them.

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Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago.

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