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Men and Women Are from Earth

A study came out recently in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: “Men and Women Are from Earth: Examining the Latent Structure of Gender.” The central hypothesis of the paper is that men and women actually aren’t all that different.  Many of the differences that we might demonstrate have more to do societal expectations than inherent biology. This isn’t the first study on the subject.  I recently read the book “Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference,” by neuroscience psychologist Cordelia Fine.  In it she exposes noticeable trends in male vs. female psychology, both in … Continue reading →

Loving an Angry Man

I’ll never forget a conversation I had with my husband early in our relationship regarding his anger issues. I was trying to ascertain whether or not he understood the impact his volatile temper had on his personal and professional life. When I realized that he didn’t necessarily consider his anger a negative attribute, I asked him, “How do you figure your temper helps you?” His answer was swift and decisive: “People are afraid of me, so they usually do what I want.” He was a little slower in answering my next question: “And how does it hurt you?” Like most … Continue reading →

Emotional Intelligence for a Single Parent

A few years back there was a bit of a buzz about “emotional intelligence.” The idea was promoted by Daniel Goleman and he came up with some tests so that individuals could figure out what their ability was to perceive, respond and manage one’s own emotions and the capacity to also perceive and respond to the emotions of others. The theory was that we needed to not only be book smart and aware of facts and figures, but that our human relationships would also be stronger and more fulfilling if we developed these emotional intelligence skills. As a single parent, … Continue reading →

Why Do Men Never Remember; Women Never Forget

Have you heard of this book: Why Men Never Remember; Women Never Forget? This is a great book by a woman named Marianne J Legato. Legato addresses a biological and fundamental differences between men and women. Interestingly enough, she cites more than just our differences in upbringing, but the actual anatomical differences between men and women in our brains. The fact is that men and women react to stress differently – women have more connections between their amygdala – the portion of the brain that writes memories and the rest of their brain. They can associate and actively write their … Continue reading →

Marriage, Love & Sex

There is a distinct relationship between love, sex and marriage. In an ideal world, sex is a natural component to love and marriage. However, we often confuse and blur the lines whether it’s based on personal experience, popular culture or something else. There is a statement that I read in a relationship guide book once that said: men need to have sex to feel loved while women need to feel loved to have sex. In general, I think this statement is true. Many women will not commit to a sexual relationship with someone they don’t feel actively cares about them. … Continue reading →

Marriage & Love; Love & Marriage

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Sometimes we forget that love and marriage both take work. When we are engaged to be married and planning our wedding ceremony, we think the sky is the limit. We know if we aim for the moon, even if we miss – we’ll still be among the stars. We understand, above all else, that we love each other. This is a thought that we need to remember, because that love can sustain us in the best of times and the worst of times. The following is a bit of a personal glimpse, but it was the best way I knew … Continue reading →