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Men and Women Are from Earth

A study came out recently in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: “Men and Women Are from Earth: Examining the Latent Structure of Gender.” The central hypothesis of the paper is that men and women actually aren’t all that different.  Many of the differences that we might demonstrate have more to do societal expectations than inherent biology. This isn’t the first study on the subject.  I recently read the book “Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference,” by neuroscience psychologist Cordelia Fine.  In it she exposes noticeable trends in male vs. female psychology, both in … Continue reading →

Marriage Is a Gem

If you could describe the whole of marriage, how would you do that?  I think I would describe it as a gem, one that is meant to be polished and taken care of. But I would also describe it as having imperfections.  Nothing in this world is really perfect, is it?  You look close enough; you can usually find a flaw.  The same is true in marriage. Yet when you take a step back, looking past the imperfections and flaws, you see nothing but a beautiful treasure.  Women oftentimes will hold their hand at a distance, as they admire the … Continue reading →

Four Terrifying Marriage Proposals

While surfing on the Internet I found a list of the “scariest marriage proposals” compiled by MSN. Given that this was just before Halloween, I thought they would have a spooky vibe. Well, I was wrong, though they were certainly scary. The four real-life marriage proposals were as follows: 1) A pilot took his girlfriend up for a ride in his small plane, pretended they were crashing, and handed his girlfriend an emergency checklist. His proposal was written on the list: “initiate ring engagement procedure.” 2) A stuntman faked a car crash and his subsequent death. His girlfriend was called … Continue reading →

Random Resources for Genealogists

Many genealogists use Ancestry.com, FamilySearch, and possibly a few other genealogy websites. There are plenty of smaller, lesser known, resources out there that pop up from time to time. Here is a random collection of resources for genealogists that I found today. See if any of them are useful to your genealogy research. A few blogs ago, I pointed out the Human Prehistory 101 course that 23andMe created. If you took the course, and the quiz that followed it, you might be wondering what the correct answers were. There is a resource that will help! 23AndMe has posted a blog … Continue reading →

Demi Moore and Daughters at War?

Poor Demi Moore has certainly seen her share of tough times lately. She went through the distressing split with ex-hubby Ashton Kutcher, then had the incident in January where she was hospitalized for reportedly having a seizure due to using “whip-its.” But, she’s been laying pretty low since getting out of rehab in March. Or is she? While she may be off the gossipmonger charts, things don’t seem quite right. At least that’s what I thought when I read that Moore attended youngest daughter Tallulah’s graduation, but left before Tallulah actually received her diploma. Now reports are that none of … Continue reading →

Shakespeare and Romance: Romeo & Juliet

One of the reasons why I often like to facilitate discussion about my type of romance is because I feel that it isn’t represented much in the media. We draw some ideas of our cultural norms from the media, so others like me might be led to feel that they’re not normal. Interestingly, one of the most famous examples of my type of romance, or at least extolling against silly romance, is often misinterpreted: “Romeo & Juliet.” People will call an ideal male lover a “Romeo,” when in fact that was the opposite of what Shakespeare intended. Shakespeare liked to … Continue reading →

Remarriage

I would like to be married again. I don’t often say that because I don’t want people to look at me with that pitying look. No, I’m not miserable and lonely but I would like someone to share my life with, someone to hold my hand and talk about the day. I’m sure I look at remarriage through rose colored glasses, the same way I looked at marriage once upon a time when I didn’t know how very wrong things could go. Now that I’m older, I wonder what exactly it means to be married now. When you are young … Continue reading →

Create a Stronger Marriage Despite Financial Stress

Did you know that one of the top reasons for divorce is because of financial stress? It’s crazy that money can drive marriage to disaster. Is It the Money or the Coping? What is it really that makes couples end their relationship though? Is it the money or is something else? I am going to put my money on something else. Couples who are in a financially strained situation are under an extraordinary amount of stress. Not only are they unable to pay bills, but they may have to work longer hours to make ends meet. What happens is that … Continue reading →

Make a Decision and Stick with It

When my ex and I were dating we were off and on. Every few months the guilt would start to get to him and we’d break up. It never lasted more than a week or two. We were comfortable together even though I think in our hearts we both knew that we would be happier with other people. Neither one of us really wanted to be alone and then we ended up pregnant. We were broken up at the time, but got back together for obvious reasons. Over a year later we decided the best thing to do was to … Continue reading →

Addiction and Depression

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Those of us who work in the mental health field are not surprised when research articles are published “proving” things we already believe are true. Sometimes I read through articles and think, ‘Duh, that’s obvious”. I realized today, though, that it may not be obvious to everyone. Sometimes I forget that my knowledge base came from 8 years of school and 10 years of practice – something my husband likes to remind me of when I am spouting off numbers. It hit home when I was speaking to my daughter about the research on marriage happiness – what seemed obvious … Continue reading →