The Art of Holding Handsby Mary Ann Romans | More from this Blogger 23 May 2009 10:46 AM Holding hands is for young unmarried couples, right? Actually, holding hands can convey so much, both to your partner and to the world around you. Married couples should make a point to continue to hold hands through all phases of their married life together. Here is why. Holding hands declares to the world that you are a couple. Often the first sign of intimacy in a new couple, it also can mean that you are committed to the other person. People who don't like to hold hands may be holding back in other areas of the relationship. When you are holding hands with someone, you are telling the world that you belong together and that you are unavailable for a relationship with someone else. By holding hands, you are offering someone else your comfort and protection. Many people hold hands during a stressful time, such as a funeral or vigils. We so often think nothing of grabbing the hand of a child to offer protection and connection, but seem to forget holding the hand of our spouse, our partner for life. Holding hands can be very practical. For anyone who has tried walking down a New York sidewalk in the middle of the day or has strolled the mall during the holidays knows that holding hands can keep you physically connected to your partner, so you don't wind up losing each other in a big crowd. Hand holding takes on more of significance these days, I think, when kissing in public is seen more as a sexual act rather than a sign of intimacy. With hand holding, you are making yourself more vulnerable to rejection. What if the other person drops your hand or doesn't hold it back? Hand holding in private, rather than public, can send different messages. Instead of declaring your couple status to the world, you are declaring your intimacy to your partner and perhaps sexual attraction as well. Do you hold hands with your spouse? Mary Ann Romans writes about everything related to saving money in the Frugal Blog, creating a home in the Home Blog, caring for little ones in the Baby Blog and now relationships in the Marriage Blog. You can read more of her articles by clicking here. Related Articles: How Facebook Could be Bad for Your Marriage Attack the Issue, Not Each Other The Gift of Unconditional Acceptance For a Good Marriage, Avoid the Story Telling Learn more about Mary Ann Romans  Mary Ann Romans is a freelance writer, wife and mother of three children. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband, the kids and a 16-pound cat. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments Samual (11722) 23 May 2009 03:31 PMWe don't in public, Frank is a lot shorter than me so if we hold hands standing up it is really awkward, I wouldn't want to get odd looks either really. Now because of the kids having a hand free for anything is a bonus.  Mary Ann Romans (26876) 25 May 2009 05:01 AMYou can hold hands in private. When you have kids around, it is pretty obvious to the world that you are together! Dawn135 (22) 14 Jun 2009 10:14 AMThis is something we always did. People would comment that they saw us walking & holding hands. It was when I realized we no longer held hands in public that I realized we were having problems. We are trying to work them out, distancing in the relationship and being unconnected are a major issue. I miss the hand holding, but now that we have acknowledged our issues it just feels forced if I try to hold his hand. Discuss this article
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