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Debt and Marriage: How It is Tough to Love When You Owe

Many couples enter into a marriage with debt already in hand. Others accumulate debt together. Either way, nurturing a loving relationship can be hard when debt is hanging over your head. In fact, according to a study by Jeffrey Dew at Utah State University, couples who reported disagreeing about finance once a week were over 30 percent more likely to get divorced than couples who reported disagreeing about finances only a few times a month. Another inference can be made from this study: there is a whole lot of disagreement about money out there. Debt is a source of contention. … Continue reading →

When Should You Review Your Insurance Policies?

The insurance policy that you bought, several years ago, might not be adequate today. If your life has changed, then so have your insurance needs. State Farm has some advice about five critical times to review your insurance. Reviewing your insurance policies may sound boring and tedious. This is probably why many people avoid it. Keep in mind that if your life has changed then your current insurance policies might be inadequate. In some cases, reviewing your policies can reveal that you are paying for more coverage than you need. You might find a way to save some money. State … Continue reading →

Help Your Child Relax

In a recent study researchers found that over half of 7 to 9 year olds were feeling stressed. Those with divorced parents experience additional stress as they are going between homes and trying to balance all of the other little things in their young lives. As parents we want our children to be happy and enjoy life without getting bogged down by the pressures of everyday life. We need to create an atmosphere in our home that encourages our children to relax and enjoy being little. Don’t overschedule your children. While you want your children to stay busy and be … Continue reading →

Learning to Stand Up for Yourself

I’ve never been very good at standing up for myself. I’m a pleaser, so I tend to let people walk all over me, my ex husband included. There have been many times that I have given in to him to avoid the contention that inevitably follows if I don’t. This is something I have struggled with for as long as I can remember, but I have finally come to the realization that it has to stop, because my needs are important too. Many times I have become so consumed with keeping the peace, that I forget to take care of … Continue reading →

Do Other People Affect Your Happiness?

If you didn’t get along during your marriage, chances are you aren’t getting along any better now that you’re divorced. I’ve gotten pretty good at taking control of my happiness, except when it comes to my ex husband. He is the one person that knows me well enough to make me feel about two inches tall. He knows how much I avoid confrontation and he often uses that to his advantage. He can make me feel worse than just about anyone I know. Unfortunately, you’re going to have to deal with your ex for the rest of your life. He … Continue reading →

Ask a Marriage Blogger – What Causes of Divorce Have You Seen Personally?

As I mentioned earlier, a friend of mine is getting married and has questions about how to make her relationship as successful as possible. She gave me permission to share some of her questions, and my answers, with you. Q. What are some causes of divorce you’ve seen personally? A. Earlier today, we saw a list of causes that can apply to couples anywhere. The causes I have personally witnessed are subheadings of each of these causes. The first and most common cause I have witnessed is pornography. I’m a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, … Continue reading →

Are You to Blame for Your Spouse’s Affair?

If your spouse has an affair with someone else, should you take some of the blame? One issue that I see coming up in the forums often enough to be a concern is the subject of having a spouse who cheats. In many of the posts, the spouse who is being cheated on wants t figure out what he or she did wrong in the relationship to cause the cheating. There are many things in a married relationship that can lead to cheating. Often women cheat because they are feeling neglected or unloved. Men tend to cheat to increase their … Continue reading →

More on homeschooling and divorce

I recently wrote an article about when homeschooling becomes an issue in divorce. Basically, it is very common for one parent (usually the husband) to be supportive in homeschooling, and even possibly the initiator, until divorce. Then they decide that they are not behind it at all and what the kids in public school. Judges also tend to be biased against homeschooling assuming the children are over sheltered. Homeschooling has never been successful if both parents do not agree. Homeschooling cannot be done in a bubble and against the will of one parent. I have to wonder that if in … Continue reading →

Should You Avoid Divorce?

There are plenty of articles out there concerning the art of avoiding divorce, as if there were some magic formula that you could apply to guarantee that your marriage will not fail. I think we all eagerly read those bits of advice as a way of making sure that our marriages are on track. Or maybe we are struggling within our marriage and are looking for the secrets of avoiding divorce. Well, let me through my two cents in here, although it might not be too popular. There are some times when divorce can’t or shouldn’t be avoided. Some people … Continue reading →

How to Prevent Money Matters from Hurting Your Marriage

Money and financial issues are one of the leading causes of conflict leading to divorce in modern marriages. Differences of opinion on what to do with money, how to save and how to spend can make you feel as though you are constantly butting heads with your spouse. If you and your spouse agree on all money issues then congratulations. You are a rare pair. Most couples have different attitudes toward money as individuals. Even couples who are have similar values (savers, let’s say) can vary a bit within their attitudes (one likes to save a little bit more than … Continue reading →