Sex Drive After Marriageby Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger 25 Sep 2007 03:00 PM Many men believe the misconception that after the honeymoon all love making is over. They believe that a woman's sex drive plunges after a couple of years of marriage. The plunge, I believe, has nothing to do with the marriage license. Before marriage, women have fewer responsibilities. They take care of themselves and have no other bodies that need to be cleaned-up or fed. After a few years of marriage, babies begin to come into the picture. Women then have an added responsibility, added emotional stress, and fewer hours of sleep. Their bodies change in ways they had never imagined possible. So are they in the mood less- yes. However, exhaustion plays a huge part. Sleeping together (actual sleep) sounds much more romantic. As the babies begin to grow the exhaustion moves from lack of sleep to racing to ball practice, getting homework, laundry, and meals. While doing all of these things, she works a forty-hour a week job. Once again a hot bath and a quiet moment are what turns her on. As a woman ages, she may notice signs of weight gain, gray hairs, and wrinkles. If she feels tired, overworked, and taken for granted, she may not feel sexy any more. She may not have the chance to get all dressed-up and actually apply make-up and fix her hair without a toddler around her legs and a baby screaming in the background. So guys, if you truly feel that your wife is just not in the mood, try washing the dishes, cooking the supper, and putting in a load of clothes. Keep the children out of the bathroom. Allow her to take a bath, get fixed up, and go out on the town as a woman (your wife) and not as a mother. You may be surprised at how fast the lingerie comes out of the closet! 10 Things You Find in a Happy Marriage Learn more about Lyn Newton  Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments bartsimpson (7) 02 Mar 2008 12:30 AMmy wife and i have been having sex maybe once every two to three months and i am going out of my mind. she seems to committ to more and more activities for work or the kids school and kids sports and is just exhaused every night. I ask to cook dinner and she says no, i ask to clean up and she asks me to clean the bathrooms so i try but am not consistent. we disagree about how to discipline the kids and that causes rifts. on valentines day, she spent the night making two cakes for some lady at work that I have never met because it was her babyshower. I have tried to get the TV out of the bedroom and it hasn't worked....she wants to keep it. I have also tried to get our 3 year old out of our bed and she won't support me. I am going crazy. Love my wife but I need sex man, dont want to cheat but I don't know whatelse to do...........please help me. Vienna54 (37) 20 Apr 2008 10:28 AMIf you're in a long-term monogamous marriage as I am, sex can sometimes seem boring and/or predictable. After 16 years, I know my husband's "routine" by heart. It never varies! We're childless by choice, but raise mini-Dachshunds as animal-assisted therapy dogs; we visit hospitals, nuring homes, assisted living centers, etc. I do all this myself. Plus, I work all day as a professional freelance writer; my husband, a physician, works long hours as well. After a tiring day working the therapy dogs and/or writing, it's difficult to face the "routine." I've been considering talking with my beloved husband about using sex toys to put some hot stuff into or sexual relations, but we're both conservative in that regard and I don't know how he would take it. Perhaps he'd worry that I don't consider his "routine" good enough anymore. Men are so sensitive! Best, Vienna Community Tags intimacy, need help, no sex life, relationships Discuss this article
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