Revenge Affairs

by Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger

31 Jul 2008 07:26 PM

All across the Families.com board, writer and readers have commented on couples, mistrust, and affairs. Various different types of affairs and affair types have been talked about. Cheating is one of the biggest forms of mistrust that a partner could ever commit in a relationship.

Being cheated on and feeling the consequences of broken trust can be a very heartbreaking experience. Every person may react to this experience in a different way. Some people are devastated emotionally. Others become angry and some become withdrawn.

During these times, some look for ways to get revenge and hurt their mate the way that they were hurt themselves. They want their mate to feel the same feelings that they feel. They want them to know the hurt that they have caused. It may seem like an appropriate action to cheat on your mate. Some live by "an eye for an eye" treatment.

However, getting even with your mate is not the best way to make yourself feel better about being cheated on. While it may seem that it will give you some feeling of peace in the being, there are serious consequences that can occur in the end.

There are several differences that separate your mates cheating from your own. When your mate cheated, there was no alterative motive. Your mate willingly cheated with or without emotional ties to the person. The cheating was your mate's idea and was strictly his or her decision.

While you too would be the final decision maker on your revenge cheating, your decision had motive. Anger and hurt were the powering factors. Under calm and normal circumstances you would likely not have made the same decision and will be upset with the decision that was made.

You could only receive more hurt from going against your own personal beliefs and values by cheating on your mate out of revenge.

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Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing.

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