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In Sickness

Sometimes we can tend to take those lines in the marriage service ‘in sickness and in health’ without really thinking through what they mean. Mick and I had practical experience of it this week. It has been a very rough week for us, as I have been in extreme pain with a back problem and been ordered by the doctor to rest. Unfortunately with back problems there is often not a lot the doctor can do. E ven resting is hard to do when constantly in pain. What’s even worse has to get up to go to the toilet and … Continue reading →

Fuss or Not?

It’s that time of year here where the weather keeps changing. One day it is beautiful and he next cold and windy. Sometimes it changes even within the one day. Sunday morning when we went to church it was brilliantly sunny and we expected a warm day exactly like the day before. By the time we came out of church it was cold and windy. Many people seem to be struggling with colds and largely because their bodies can’t adjust fast enough to the changes in weather patterns. I’ve been one of them. I’ve been battling cold and flu symptoms … Continue reading →

A Marriage that Works

When you see a marriage that works it is just so obvious, you can’t help but notice. Recently Mick and I were invited into the home of an elderly couple we know. This couple has been married over 60 years. A couple of things struck me as we entered their home. The first was how important their marriage was to them. They had photographs of their wedding and also photographs and items from the local paper about their 6Oth wedding anniversary which occurred last year on display. Their home had real warmth as it was filled with lots of other … Continue reading →

An Analogy of Marriage

What an interesting day yesterday. Before we started out for church the heavens opened. Thunder, lightning, and unbelievable rain raged. It was slow driving for Mick and me to get to church. Then just as we were about to round a corner close to church traffic came to a standstill. Water covered the road and a couple or cars turned around. One car though had attempted to go through the water. And became stuck. At that point we were never going to take the chance and try plowing through the water. We had two choices, either turn back and let … Continue reading →

Lasting Love

Did you notice recently when I posted the article about the seven Fs I read about, that you need in a marriage the first one mentioned was friendship? That struck me at the time. The thing you might expect would be love. But no, it was friendship and food for thought. The trouble is love today has come to mean many other things. People talk about ‘falling in love’ when often it is a physical attraction or it’s tied up with lust and the sexual appeal of the other person. It’s how they feel when they are with them. We’ve … Continue reading →

Adultery is a Symptom

Adultery isn’t what kills a marriage. It is just a symptom. I read this idea recently in a novel and thought there is a lot of truth to this statement. The novel was Every Secret Thing by Laura Lippmann. But let’s examine that statement. What sort of things contribute to a spouse having an affair? The first thing that springs to my mind is that they are not getting what they want in the marriage relationship. It may be they are being neglected by their spouse. This can come about through busyness with work, family or even other activities like … Continue reading →

Tips for Making Marriage Work

Yesterday we looked at the concept of making marriage work. Here are some tips to help make marriage work. Pick the right person. It sounds obvious, but too often people are blinded by love or physical attraction and don’t put enough thought into whether they are compatible, whether they have enough interests in common, whether they have the same beliefs. It’s no good going into marriage and then expecting to change the other person. It won’t happen. All that will happen is you end up making you and your spouse miserable. So make sure you can live with other person’s … Continue reading →

Positive About Marriage

Since the last few articles have been about negatives and divorce statistics, I thought it was time we had a couple of positive stories of marriages that have stood the test of time. The first is a couple who recently celebrated their 64th wedding anniversary. If 64 sounds like an odd number of married years to celebrate it could be because Bruce and Isabel are 88 and 84 respectively and maybe they figure one you get to that age you never know how long you’ll be round so you may as well as celebrate each milestone along the way. It … Continue reading →

The Other Side of the Picture

I’m convinced that how successful and lasting a marriage is comes back to several things. One is choosing the right person and thinking it through logically and carefully before you embark on marriage. The other is, as Mary Ann suggested, each one’s attitude towards marriage and commitment to it. Now it’s time to spend time apart says reality TV star Heidi Montag. Since I never watch reality TV, I know nothing about this woman or Spencer Pratt, her husband, apart from the article. Mick’s comment when he suggested this was something I might use was, ‘it sounds like the reality … Continue reading →