Remarrying? Things to Think About

by Heather Long | More from this Blogger

13 Nov 2006 11:58 AM

After a divorce or a widowing, the widow, the widower and the divorcee is not going to be immediately thinking about marrying again. In fact, the average person needs at least 2 years after such an event before they are willing to even consider marriage again. There are a number of things to think about when you are deciding whether you are ready or not and whether the relationship you are in is ready for marriage or not.

Among the things to think about are:

• If you have children, you need their input - even if they are young children. It's important that your kids have their feelings taken into account. Granted, adult children may not live at home any longer, but it doesn't mean they don't have an emotional investment in your well being. If there is a real dislike between your children and the person you want to marry - this can a problem for all the relationships in your life
• How do you feel about this kind of a commitment again? Did your first marriage not work out? Were you widowed and heart broken? Are you ready to open the door to sharing your life with another person again? Are you worried about how this is going to go? What happens if it doesn't work again?
• Are you being honest with yourself? Are you being honest with your potential spouse? Have the two of you talked about the potential sacrifices and changes the two of you are going to make in blending your lives together? Do they have children that you have to get to know and care about?

Deciding to marry is a big decision, making the decision to remarry is an even bigger one. It's about blending the lives and families and dreams and ideals. Are you ready to remarry?

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Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago.

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