Questions to Ask Yourselfby Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger 28 Jul 2008 10:06 AM In most cases people have a gut instinct on whether or not they are meant to be with their partner. However, fewer people cat on this instinct. Some feel obligated to the relationship because they have already invested time into it. Others fear that their instinct may be wrong so they tough it out instead of being alone. Knowing whether or not to put more effort into a relationship or simply just get out of it altogether can be a tough decision for some. I was recently reading a book about relationships in which I came across a neat little quiz for you to ask yourself when you are having doubts about what to do in your relationship. The quiz had four simple questions to ask yourself about your partner or the person that you are questioning. The key is to be very honest about the answers that you give yourself. 1. Would this be a person that you would want to have a child with? Can you see this person as being a mother or a father to your children? Is this someone that you would want to spend family time with? This person may be loads of partying fun but is this someone that you can see as being responsible and devoted to a family? 2. In addition to having a child with this person, would you want your child to have traits of this person? Is this someone that you would want your child modeling after? Does this person have traits that you would want passed down to another generation? 3. Would you want to become more like this person? Is this someone that will have a good influence on your life? Is this someone that can be support for you and lead you in the right directions? Learn more about Lyn Newton  Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments Warmembrace (5) 15 Nov 2008 02:41 AMSome years ago i started going out with a girl who I thought was very pretty. Aftrer a month or so, I got the feeling that this was not meant to be the one for me. It was difficult to have much of a meaningful conversation with her. She had a low paying job, no college, an opinion about everything but just not informed about much going on in the world, but she was alw2ays fighting for control of everything. She tells me she is pregnant and wants to be my wife and the mother of my children. I did the right thing and regretted it everyday of the 30 years since. In the end, she turned out to be a Narcissist and after years of trying to fight it, I just had a breakdown instead. That was 7 years and I am still not back on my feet and feel sick to my stomach every day about not heeding the warning signs and just letting her degrade me until I am all used up. Lookling back, I questioned her sanity at least once a week. If you even think there is malisciousness in your partner towardes you, THEN GET OUT asap! If you are not soulmates, Get Out early and find the right one. Discuss this article
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