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Resolving Conflict in Marriage – part 2

One of the biggest problems, where there is conflict in a marriage, is one person feeling they are not actually being heard. So it is important that you listen and acknowledge your spouse’s feelings. Even if you disagree or think they are misinterpreting events or comments, for the moment keep that to yourself. Just let them know firstly that you love them and are actually hearing what they are saying about how they are feeling. If you are too quick to jump in with your own opinions or own version of events, it will effectively shut them down and they … Continue reading →

Resolving Conflict in Marriage

If you and your spouse are having problems, what can you do? A lot will depend on how long the conflict has been going on, what it is about and how serious the issue is. But you need to sit down together and talk and work through the situation. Here are some suggestions you might like to consider adopting. If you are a believer then talk to God before you talk to your spouse. Ask God to change the heart of your spouse, so that he or she is receptive and prepared to listen to what you have to say. … Continue reading →

Letting Them Solve Problems WITHOUT Interference

We often talk about the road to independence here in the Parents blog and we also talk about teaching, guidance and intervention. I thought that it was high time we talk about letting our children solve problems without a word or intervention from us as parents. It can be hard; much easier said than done; but if they are to develop problem-solving skills and confidence, the children need opportunities to tackle things without our getting in the way. When a child is learning to walk, he or she falls down—it is a given. As a parent do you rush over … Continue reading →

Laugh, Cry, Kiss Your Problems Goodbye

Having a hard time lately? One of the best pieces of advice I have seen for coping with communication problems and disconnect in a marriage is to go out and have a good time. You may be looking skeptically at this, but I’ve known two couples who went to a couples weekend to work on their problems. They spent four days at a resort where they thought they were going to spend the weekend delving into every part of their problems and confronting the ugliness that has become their marriage. A Night on the Town The first step they were … Continue reading →

How to Use Bibliotherapy to Help your Child Solve a Problem

HELP. My child has a problem around an important issue and I cannot afford to go to a child therapist to get professional advice. Does this cry for help sound familiar? Here’s a free tip: use books as an immediate and at home solution to help your child sort through and problem solve around the issue. In the previous article on using junior fiction as a virtual therapist, we looked at what Bibliotherapy is. Today we’re going to look at how to use a specifically chosen story to assist your child to problem solve, release their emotion and develop insight … Continue reading →

Debt and Marriage: How It is Tough to Love When You Owe

Many couples enter into a marriage with debt already in hand. Others accumulate debt together. Either way, nurturing a loving relationship can be hard when debt is hanging over your head. In fact, according to a study by Jeffrey Dew at Utah State University, couples who reported disagreeing about finance once a week were over 30 percent more likely to get divorced than couples who reported disagreeing about finances only a few times a month. Another inference can be made from this study: there is a whole lot of disagreement about money out there. Debt is a source of contention. … Continue reading →

When Your Personal Love Myth’s Been Offended

Yesterday I wrote about how understanding your personal love myth might help you understand your relationship. Especially if you’re having problems of the nature where your heart feels like it craves more, though you have no idea what it needs. Or is somehow unfilled, though you can’t really explain why. Maybe it’s because your personal love myth’s been offended. Identifying the Problem Have you ever found yourself in the predicament where nothing seems right in your relationship? This little thing irritates you. That little thing gripes you. But you don’t know exactly why. All you know is it doesn’t take … Continue reading →

Recipe For a Happy Marriage

Given the increasing rate of divorce what can we do to safeguard our marriages and make sure we don’t end up among the statistics? Here are some suggestions that we have found work in our marriage. Take all the ingredients below and out them together in a marriage. Hold on tight to what you have. Consider your marriage and the positives of your spouse and don’t forget to let him or her know how much you appreciate their special qualities. Overlook their faults. We all have them. Love is about accepting the other person for who they are faults and … Continue reading →

Differentiate between External and Internal Issues

Problem-solving is a regular part of running a home business. Most of us find ourselves constantly having to put out fires and deal with issues that come up. It helps to be able to determine which issues are coming from external sources and which ones are developing on an internal level. Which are coming from outside your business and which are problems that you are generating yourself from within? What would be the difference between an internal and an external problem? An internal problem would be something like inadequate bookkeeping software or a time management crunch on your side. If … Continue reading →

Long Marriages: This Family Knows How to Do It

A few weeks back one of my favorite Families.com commentators, Jade Walker, PM’d me with a subject line that read “A Case for Long Marriages.” Within the PM she included a link to an article and the brief note: “Apparently, the key is to have the wife stay at home.” I would have clicked the link anyway, but that was a definite attention getter. “Has there been some kind of study done proving there’s a correlation between stay-at-home wives/moms and long marriages?” I wondered. Not exactly. But if we study the seven siblings (five sisters and two brothers) who make … Continue reading →