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The Arts and Marriage

How often do you and your husband attend an arts event? You know what I mean; an art show, a play, a musical evening or a poetry reading? From what I see around me I’m guessing it would not be all that often. Last week we went to a play Romeo and Juliet and then on Saturday night Mick and I went to a musical gig with the Janet Seidel Trio. Janet is a jazz singer and we both thoroughly enjoyed the evening. The music was fabulous. Other times Mick and I have gone to poetry readings. He’s not greatly … Continue reading →

Predetermining Choices in Marriage

When one person makes most of the choices regarding the wedding, a pattern for the marriage can be set up. In your marriage does one partner determine the marriage choices? Did one person determine where you would live? Or was it a joint decision? It may not be as big a decision as that. It may be in myriad little decisions, like what you do in your free time, what you watch on TV, or what movies you see. Marriage is about give and take. Marriage is a blending together of two people with sometimes different tastes to make one … Continue reading →

Predetermining Choices

Are you trying to predetermine your child’s choices and interests? That’s something I see happening in families. It’s something I’ve had happened in my life. When I was going into high school I had a choice. I could either take geography or history. My mother convinced me to take geography because she hated history. I did and have regretted it ever since. That’s one case but it happens all the time. Then there’s the young girl who was forced to learn ballet and play the piano when she had no interest or aptitude for either. Friends of ours were adamant … Continue reading →

Why I Wouldn’t Want to Marry a Prince

I am officially over it and it hasn’t even taken place yet. Of course I’m talking about the royal wedding, which I am doing my level best to ignore. But it is not easy. TV stations here are obsessed with it. I have no doubt the magazine market is too but since I don’t buy magazines and haven’t been near a supermarket or shop in over ten days, I wouldn’t know. It seems to me though that marrying a prince would be awful. Why? I’ll tell you. Firstly you’d live your whole life in the public eye with everyone watching … Continue reading →

Happy Bookday

Monday for me was what an online friend and fellow author described as ‘happy bookday.’ It was the day my novel Streets on a Map was published. While it will be available in bookshops, it is also going to be available from my website. Since I am nobody’s idea of a computer literate person, once again I had to rely on that darling husband of mine. Not just to help me celebrate although there was some of that, but to carry in the boxes of books that are now stored in my study. Then he went in and set up … Continue reading →

Feeling Guilty and Sharing Happiness

Another aspect of not taking responsibility for actions is one person trying to lay a guilt trip on their spouse. Often it occurs where they are plainly in the wrong but instead of admitting it, they get around it my making others feel guilty. This is often is done by sly comments making yourself out it be a better person or more spiritual or forgiving or whatever. Mick and I have been on the receiving end of such comment before today, not so much from each other but from others if we didn’t do what they thought we should. We … Continue reading →

When and Where to Marry

In Australia civil marriages are overtaking marriages held in a church. There were 25718 marriages in the last year conducted by marriage celebrants and 14966 religious ceremonies. I did wonder whether this allowed for ceremonies that were conducted by an ordained minister or pastor but were not held in a church but held on a beach or in garden or some other place. Some ministers or pastors will not marry couples outside a church. Others do not have a problem with it. In my opinion how is God’s creation any less a suitable place to be married than a building … Continue reading →

More Ways for Relieving Stress

Following on from yesterday’s post, here are more ways to relieve stress. Obviously a lot will depend on your own personality. For example some people might suggest massage as the ultimate in relaxation and relieving stress. To me, there is nothing relaxing about having another person massaging me, unless that person is Mick of course, or sometimes when our daughter was living at home, she gave me a massage, particularly when my neck and shoulder were really bad. But as for going to a masseur, it would never happen in my lifetime but I know others who love it. So … Continue reading →

Would You Let Your Husband Win?

Would you let your husband win if you were playing against him in sport? Back in past times there was a theory that a girl or woman should always let her guy win. Even if she could play tennis or squash or whatever sport it was better than him, she was supposed to unobtrusively throw the game so he could feel good about himself. Apparently the idea was that the fragile male ego could not cope with being beaten by a female. I have to say I’ve never subscribed to that idea. Given the choice, I’d rather play with my … Continue reading →

On the Same Wave Length

Are you on the same wave length as your spouse? Can you read the signs and body language without them saying too much? Yesterday we had such a situation. In the early afternoon I went out to my husband in the garden and said, ‘What are you going to do this afternoon?‘ He mentioned a few things that needed doing and asked me what I planned to do. I also mentioned a few things I needed to get to. The trouble was it was such a beautiful sunny day I didn’t feel like being stuck inside doing them. However I … Continue reading →