My husband gets a little uptight on the freeway. He tenses up, changes lanes, and then says unkind things about the other drivers. Then he’ll calm down again, only to do it all over again a few minutes later. I can’t see what’s stressing him out, but something is. The driver can usually see more than the passenger anyway. This quirkiness of driving shouldn’t really annoy me, but it does. Sixteen years ago, I was in a car accident, and freeway driving makes me nervous in the first place. I’m glad it’s him driving, and not me—in fact, I have … Continue reading →

Every person has their own unique language. It comes from the way they were raised, books they’ve read, experiences they’ve had—everything influences the way they see the world around them, and they will have their own ways of expressing their thoughts, feelings, and desires. When you are in a relationship with someone, you’ll find the greatest happiness of success in your relationship if you learn to speak their language, and if they learn to speak yours. If something goes wrong with your current relationship and you find yourself in another down the road, you will need to learn that person’s … Continue reading →

As wonderful as my marriage is, and as much as my husband and I love each other, sometimes he honestly doesn’t understand what I’m saying to him. I’ll ask him to do something, he’ll miss a crucial step or explanation, things go terribly awry, and then he says he didn’t hear that part or didn’t understand that part of the conversation. This last weekend, I actually had thoughts of beating him with my water bottle, I was so frustrated. But then I calmed down and we sat down to talk. I asked my husband to help me understand how I … Continue reading →