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Physical Abuse Can Go Both Ways

We all know that it’s not right for a man to hit his wife. There are all kinds of protective agencies and laws in place, shelters for abused women, support groups that meet both online and in person. This is how it should be, but what about marriages in which the wife is abusive to the husband? It does happen. Most of the time, the husband is physically stronger than the wife, and if he’s the abuser, he can inflict a lot more damage. He can break her arms and ribs, give her concussions and bruises, and even cause wounds … Continue reading →

New Wives Tales: Your Weight & Your Sex Life

Diminishing sexual appetites and a distinct lack of interest in sex can put a strain on even the happiest of marriages. There is an old saying that when a couple has sex, it’s only about 10% of their marriage, when they have no sex, it becomes 90% of their marriage. But for some women the underlying cause of their lack of interest is directly related to their own personal weight. Please, Hear Me Out Ladies, we all look in the mirror and if we don’t see that super-model body or at least the lean, gentle figure that we all possessed … Continue reading →

You Don’t Want a Divorce, But Your Spouse Does

The truth is, no relationship is 100% perfect and no relationship works out exactly the way you want it too. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a great relationship that lasts the rest of your life and it doesn’t mean you can’t have a relationship fail or become so difficult that one partner or the other elects to abandon that relationship. But if your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t – how you behave and cope with it is going to have a very real impact. Don’t Push Them Away When things go wrong though, we are more likely … Continue reading →

How Casual Are You?

When it comes to relationships your attitude will have a distinct impact on the success or the failure of it. The person who is very casual about his or her own relationship often gives off the sense of not being very involved in your own relationship. It could indicate to your partner that you don’t care enough to really invest yourself in that relationship. You can be casual when something happens in another place or to other people, but you can’t be casual about it in your own backyard. You have to respond to your own life and your own … Continue reading →

Is Marriage ‘the’ Key to a Better Society?

If you were to take the complexity of the problems in our world today, it would take days and days to tackle the breakdown of poverty, the ‘growing’ underclass and the lack of cohesiveness in our society today. I’ve even seen papers written about the fact that the breakdown of our person-to-person relations is in direct proportion to our growing technologies. It began, in essence, with the industrial revolution as we abandoned small town ties and the bonds created by sharing traditions and needs with rural communities. The transition from rural to urban diminished those ties and the transition from … Continue reading →

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell – In Marriage?

Okay, this is a hard topic for me to write about and I’ll be honest about why – there’s an old saying – everybody lies. We all keep little things from each other whether it’s to avoid a fight or a hurt feeling or because the perception of one person is that the information is inconsequential and therefore easily forgotten. But how can a don’t ask, don’t tell policy benefit your marriage? If You’re Feeling More Than a Little Skeptical At the Moment, Then We’re on the Same Page Do you hide any shopping trips from your spouse? Do you … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Couples Don’t Have to Discuss Everything

Marriage means you shouldn’t keep secrets, right? So is not keeping secrets – telling each other absolutely everything? Not necessarily. There is a fine line between disclosure and privacy. Every couple has a subject or subjects that are considered taboo. The subjects may be taboo because they have either collectively decided to not discuss them or simply left them untouched. The simple fact is conversation and disclosures are two different things. For example, when you are dating and getting to know each other, you are very likely to share humorous anecdotes and tales of your past. You might talk about … Continue reading →

The Week in Review – September 9 – 15

Welcome to Saturday the 16th and a new feature for the Marriage Blog where we take a moment to review the stories we shared with you this week. We’ll give you a quick rundown on the day by day of the news stories and more that Sherry and I shared with you. September 9 Sherry shared with a great idea for Wedding Favors: Sealed with a Kiss that you can make yourself and it doesn’t cost much to create something so pretty. We also talked about Marriage in the News: Arranged Marriage Fraud about the immigration marriage scheme that was … Continue reading →

Old Wounds Can Damage Your Relationship

Have you ever found yourself still feeling resentment for something your spouse may have done years ago? Seriously, take a moment and reflect. Are there any old injuries or incidences that come to mind – something that makes your mouth tighten, your eyes harden and your temper flare? If so – the time to keep sitting on it is done. When you don’t treat an old wound, but keep it buried – you are doing more harm to your relationship than good. Old wounds are untreated sores that will continue to fester and discolor your present day experiences whether they … Continue reading →