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Living with Engineers: It’s All in the Timing

Another engineer’s wife and I were having a discussion about household chores yesterday.  We were bemoaning the fact that if we want our husbands to do something for us, we either need to tell them right away, or it won’t happen at all. The engineer’s mind is a constant one-way track of processing information.  It’s what makes them so brilliant and efficient: they zero in on a task, giving it their complete focus until it’s done.  I’m almost always thinking about other things while I’m working on something, which is why it can take me longer to achieve something with … Continue reading →

Living with Engineers: Spouses, not Supervisors

Living with an engineer involves more than just having to hear the word “efficient” all of the time. A lot of engineers end up in management positions, and that means one thing: they’re bred to supervise. The word “efficient” does get bandied about, in how they think tasks ought to be accomplished. I already shared my story about measuring butter for baking, and how my husband felt about that. That’s not the only time something like that has happened. Sometimes, I find Jonathan trying to supervise me when we’re completing a project. To be fair, sometimes I ask for it. … Continue reading →

The Harmful “Him” vs. “Her”

I know that men and women think differently. My first impulse is to examine how much of that is natural and how much is a result of cultural conditioning, but that’s a study for another time, and really another blog. What I want to focus on today is the sort of “us” vs. “them” mentality that arises sometimes, and how that might affect marriages. I had to read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” for a high school health class. I found it abhorrent, and said as much in my paper on the book. I understand as much … Continue reading →

International vs Domestic Adoption

We have friends that are in China adopting a beautiful baby girl right now. The journey for them to adopt a baby from China started over five years ago. They knew since they got married that they wanted to adopt a baby girl from China they just did not realize how long the process would take. When you do an international adoption there are rules and guidelines that the country of origin requires for international adoption. It does not happen as fast as you see when some famous celebrity goes to a country and comes right home with a baby. … Continue reading →

Five Big Vs for a Vital, Viable Marriage

There are several but the first one I’m going to suggest is vigilance. Vigilance The dictionary meaning of vigilance is watchfulness. It seems to me that am a good idea to keep watch on our marriage to see if there is anything that needs to be changed to make it better. Two other meanings are caution and circumspect. We need to be cautious and circumspect in our behavior, particularly when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, whether that is friends or the man or woman at work or in the supermarket. Always remember the wedding ring on your … Continue reading →

Spencer and Heidi: A Case Study in Living Together

A couple weeks back I wrote about a show I watch on MTV called The Hills. It follows the lives of four girls as they deal with friends, careers, dating, and all the other stuff life throws at you in your early twenties. One of the girls is Heidi. Last season she hooked up with a guy named Spencer. They had a tumultuous beginning. He seemed to be two-timing her with one of her good friends, Audrina. (Someone else the show follows.) Then when Heidi was supposed to go out of town but a last minute change kept her in … Continue reading →

Marriage Week in Review: September 24- September 30

Courtney and I are loving the opportunity to co-write together for the marriage section of Families.com. We are also excited each time that Heather can join us. We hope to hear more from Heather in October. Check out this week’s news below. Monday, September 24 What Is The Mood Of Your Marriage? In this article, I discussed how sometimes a marriage gets stuck in a mood. The mood itself may not be the problem. However, being in the mood too long can be. Homemaking as a Degree In this article, Courtney discusses how she read that now homemakers can earn … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog’s New Millenium

Good morning! Welcome to our 1,000th post here in the marriage blog and let me tell you, it feels so weird to say we’ve been here for a 1000 different entries tackling everything from wedding planning to problem solving to dating and more. It’s been a real pleasure for me to be writing for this topic for nearly a year now and to share it with such an awesome co-blogger as Sherry Holetzky. With that in mind, we thought we’d offer a small treat for our 1,000th blog and we interviewed each other. So without further ado, let me present … Continue reading →

Men and Women Are from Earth

A study came out recently in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: “Men and Women Are from Earth: Examining the Latent Structure of Gender.” The central hypothesis of the paper is that men and women actually aren’t all that different.  Many of the differences that we might demonstrate have more to do societal expectations than inherent biology. This isn’t the first study on the subject.  I recently read the book “Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference,” by neuroscience psychologist Cordelia Fine.  In it she exposes noticeable trends in male vs. female psychology, both in … Continue reading →

What to Expect on Day One at Story@Home 2013

The Story@Home conference will take place in February of 2013. Genealogists can choose to purchase a ticket that will give them access to both days of the conference. Or, they can buy a ticket for just one day. Which day should you choose? Here is some information about what to expect from Day One of Story@Home 2013. Story@Home is an annual conference that is going to have its second year in 2013. It is a conference that gives genealogists a lot of good information about how to incorporate family history into their genealogy research. It provides a natural way to … Continue reading →