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Holidays and Marriage – Part 3

One of the biggest considerations for your marriage with a holiday plan is whether you are going to camp. For many families this is a cheap alternative. But unless you are the type of people who enjoy this sort of thing, then don’t even consider it. For Mick and me, camping would not be a holiday but a nightmare. I would rather stay home than go camping. Thankfully Mick feels the same. As a result we could probably count on or fingers, maybe even one hand, the number of holidays we have taken in our married life. And that’s okay. … Continue reading →

Marriage is Like the Sea- Part 2

When I told Mick about my last article he came up with a couple of extra ideas. First he said, ‘So marriage is like the sea because it’s dark and stormy?’ Just as well I know he was joking. Sadly, the reality is for some people that is exactly what it is like. Marriage is a constant battle as each one seeks to get their own way and stormy arguments result. A little bit of give and take is in order in any marriage. Then he mentioned that marriage was like the sea in that there are tides. Ebb and … Continue reading →

Marriage Means Adjustments

Being married means making adjustments. It means adapting to living with another person and considering, and where possible accommodating their interests, likes and dislikes as well as your own. This is important in bed as well as in other places. When we first got married Mick said, ‘Why do you want to chat as soon as we get into bed?’ Having talking to a number of women it’s something more than a few of us are guilty of. I suspect it’s because when we get into bed, we start to replay the day in our minds. We’re thinking about what … Continue reading →

Committing to Eternal Marriage

Eternal marriage is a wonderful blessing of being a Latter-Day Saint. It is important to remain worthy, so that you will be able to marry in the temple when the time comes. Once you have achieved the goal of a temple marriage, it is important to continue to live so that you are temple worthy. Here are five ideas to help you to strengthen your eternal marriage. 1) Once you are married in the temple go regularly. You should also take time to remember the covenants you made in the temple. You can easily do this by doing sealings around … Continue reading →

You Can’t Always Fix Everything

It’s a frequent miscommunication, one written about many times: one spouse just wants to vent their frustrations, and the other hears it as “please fix my problem.” It’s most common that the women are former and the men latter, but I’ve heard of the situation reversed; it all depends on personality. Jon and I can sometimes fall into this trap as well. It starts off very sweet: Jon would like to be able to solve my problems for me. That’s something we’d all like to do for the people that we love. But because that’s impossible, it’s important that we … Continue reading →

Running to Mommy

Getting married means taking a huge step—not only toward your new spouse, but away from friends and family who used to comprise your whole world. You’ll still love them and share time with them, but your focus should be on your new spouse. One of the hardest adjustments that takes place in a marriage is for the bride to learn to lean on her husband instead of on her mother. Now, not every girl has a close relationship with her mother, but for many, their mom is their confidante and their best friend. They turned to their mom for advice … Continue reading →

A Strange Idea of Love

Some people have a strange idea of what love is. Recently Mick and I watched 3 shows. In each case one person was supposedly in love with the other person, yet you wouldn’t have thought so by their behavior. In each case the person was intent on making their partner jealous by flirting with or kissing someone else and by trying to evoke a response from them. In my view, if you love someone you don’t behave like this. It’s the sort of behavior that often happens with young teenagers experimenting with their sexuality and their attraction to and effect … Continue reading →

Do You Really Need an Overseas Honeymoon?

The earthquake, tsunami and devastation in Japan have greatly affected at least one couple’s honeymoon plans. A local couple, Jessica and Kieran wanted to go to Japan during cherry blossom time, as their wedding next week is having a cherry blossom theme, which sounds all lovely and romantic. The honeymoon was to have been spent in Japan at the famous cherry blossom festival in Osaka. But recent earth shattering events in Japan have put paid to that idea. Sadly their plans could also seriously dent their finances as they are not able to recover their losses on fares and so … Continue reading →

Happy Bookday

Monday for me was what an online friend and fellow author described as ‘happy bookday.’ It was the day my novel Streets on a Map was published. While it will be available in bookshops, it is also going to be available from my website. Since I am nobody’s idea of a computer literate person, once again I had to rely on that darling husband of mine. Not just to help me celebrate although there was some of that, but to carry in the boxes of books that are now stored in my study. Then he went in and set up … Continue reading →

Family Generations Ties and Boundaries

Family dynamics can be difficult when you are first married. You may find it is difficult to balance between the two extended families and the needs of your own family. As a parent to a newlywed you may be struggling with how to let your child go and how much is really healthy. This is a time when feelings can be easily hurt. It is important to remember that husband and wife should cleave together to begin their new family. One way that they do this is that they leave behind the old. This means a priority shift when it … Continue reading →