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Justice of the Peace Ceremonies: Manhattan Style

Today Jade sent me a link to a New York Times article that reminded me of one of the wedding scenes in Sex and the City: The Movie. (The one where Carrie and Big finally make it official.) The article was “Drab Setting, but Joyous Work: Making 2 Into 1” written by Fernanda Santos. It was about the Manhattan Marriage Bureau (MMB.). Apparently it’s quite the humble, but popular place, to get hitched in New York. And it’s about to get a makeover. Why the New Look After 92 Years? There are two reasons the MMB is slated for a … Continue reading →

What Are Romantic Ideas?

Romantic ideas sell more magazines, books and movies than sex. It should be telling that most people can figure out the latter, but the former should be offered at college level as a required course. The final wouldn’t even have to be a test, because life will offer enough pop quizzes on romance to fill an entire issue of just about any woman’s magazine. When men and women come together in relationships, they are often looking for partners that share common interests, common goals and with whom they wouldn’t mind seeing at 5 a.m. with no sleep and hair that … Continue reading →

Trash: The Discarded Aspects of Our Lives

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You may think talking trash in the marriage blog is not a good fit, but whether you’re talking about garbage duty, discarding detritus from our households in a general clear out or having an emotional clear out – trash exists. The Discarded Aspects of Our Lives Who you were when you were a teenager is not who you are in your twenties. Who you were in your twenties is not who you are in your thirties and who you were when you were single is not who you are when you are married and so forth and so on. This … Continue reading →

What is Marriage Coming To?

We talk about marriage in the world like it’s a commodity. Marriage isn’t a gallon of milk, a bottle of wine or a brand new pair of shoes. We don’t get marriage on sale when it’s been marked down 40% and we don’t find it advertised in the newspaper. Well, maybe we do advertise it in the newspaper and maybe we do look at it like a commodity. There are a number of services available that match up individuals who are looking for marriage or a long-term relationship. Marriage is Organic For myself, and mind you this is just my … Continue reading →

Will This Couple Stay Together?

When we go to a wedding or hear about an engagement, we all wonder will they make it? Will that couple stay together? We’ll think about all the things they’ve done together and all the things they’ve shared and we think about it. We can’t help it, especially those of us who have grown up seeing our parents, parents of our friends divorcing. I, myself, grew up raised by a single mother and my grandmother. My grandfather died before I was born and I never knew my father. A study was discussed recently in Psychology Today that found many a … Continue reading →

To Love and To Cherish: Not To Be In Love and To Court

Are you in love with your spouse? Seriously, think about the question and then think about this one: is your spouse in love with you? Now, while you have those questions and answers in your mind, think about these questions: Do you love your spouse? Does your spouse love you? I would hazard a guess that the answer to the first two questions is no and the second two questions is yes. Now realize, this is very subjective post today because I was thinking about something I heard on television earlier. (Yes, I know, I shouldn’t fall asleep watching television … Continue reading →

Rules of Romance

It’s hardly surprising in a world where uncertainty seems to be becoming the watch word whether worried about the military action in Iraq, Afghanistan and other hot spots or facing economic hardships at home – adding a little excitement and spice in our marriages is more important than ever. So it’s important to recognize what the rules of romance are so that you and your spouse can make the best of your marriage together. Rules of Romance The first rule of romance is an easy one – or at least it should be. The first rule of romance is to … Continue reading →

Love Letters – Where to Leave I Love Yous

Saying I love you is easy, but when you are romancing your loved one – you can leave little I love you notes in great places – places that will not only catch them off guard, but deliver a loving smile at the same time. Here are a few tips on where to leave those love letters: On a bookmark inside a book they are reading On the bathroom mirror, with your finger, so that when it steams up – you can read the I Love You With magnets on the refrigerator Inside their shoes On the steering wheel of … Continue reading →

Marriage: It’s Not Called Dating for a Reason

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As we’ve discussed previously, living together is not like being married — in fact – many couples who have cohabitated and then married agree that there is a different emotion, feeling and expectation associated with marriage that is not present in cohabitation. Similarly, while I have also talked about the need for married couples to enjoy couple time and date nights, marriage is not dating. When We Date Dating in the United States is a mixture of courtship, friendship and romance. Many individuals may date without ever expecting the relationship to go anywhere. A date happens because one individual or … Continue reading →