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Taking Vacations with Other Couples

Have you ever taken a vacation with another couple? Wayne and I have a couple of times. (And have talked about doing so with other friends but haven’t because we haven’t been able to coordinate schedules.) However, those times we did venture off with friends, we’ve had fun. After working out some kinks… Know What to Expect No, you can’t plan for every contingency. You have to leave room for spontaneity. Or, at least we like to. Some people do prefer to have a strict schedule laid out that they adhere to without exception. But that’s what I’m getting at. … Continue reading →

Marriage Roadblock: Latin America vs. Europe

Wayne and I have run into one of the biggest problems we’ve had in years. One we haven’t been able to find a way of settling without getting very huffy with one another. See, we both have a passion for travel and really want to take an overseas/out of country vacation. We just can’t seem to agree on the same destination. Ever since before I met Wayne I’ve dreamt of going to France. Not so much Paris as somewhere in the countryside. (I’m not a big city person but everyone keeps telling me I should make an exception for Paris. … Continue reading →

Can a Separation Help Your Marriage?

My focus for the day has been on legal separations and how to protect yourself when obtaining one. Now that a legal separation has been defined and tips have been given the question is: can a separation be helpful to your marriage or do they always end in divorce? Separation does not always lead to divorce. If you choose a separation over a divorce then you obviously still have feelings for one another and what to leave saving your marriage as an option. If your marriage is rocky and the tension is high, a separation from your spouse may be … Continue reading →

Marriage Fights: Money

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Money fights are one of the biggest problems in marriages today. Financial counselor Dave Ramsey teaches that this is because how we spend our money reflect our values, and whether or not we have the same goals. For instance, if one spouse values saving for retirement while the other would rather have a new boat now (and spends the money intended to go into the retirement account), there is an obvious conflict. And since a large portion of LDS families are larger than the national average, with more stay-at-home moms (and thus tighter budgets), it is easy to understand why … Continue reading →

Four Ways to Save Money on Birthday Cake

This week we are in the middle of trying to finalize plans for an upcoming birthday party for our two sons. Two boys with birthdays only a month apart means one party to save the relatives from traveling, but two separate cakes with different themes. All of that cake can add up in expense. Here are four different ways to save money on birthday cake. With these various options, you should be able to find your own great way to shave off some of the cost of the birthday cake. Buy a regular birthday cake but skip the special decorating. … Continue reading →

Two Peas in a Pod

Do people describe yourself and your spouse as “two peas in a pod?” Do you usually know what the other person is thinking and can finish each other’s sentences? As I mentioned in my earlier post, good marriages can be made up of two people who are opposite and balance each other. They can also be made up of two people who are amazingly similar. Both types of marriages have their good and their not so good. Which marriage is yours? The Two Peas The two of you never seem to argue because you are usually of the same mind. … Continue reading →

Learning about Coping Gracefully from My Pets

Over in Marriage I wrote about how this year has been one blow after the other and I feel like I’m living under a black cloud. A string of them to be exact. No sooner does one pass than another one moves in and pours on me some more. I don’t even get a chance to fully dry off. I’ve been trying to cope as well as I can, but I have to be honest. My defenses are wearing down. Yesterday I got another blow. My dad’s girlfriend called to say she was at St. Anthony’s with my dad. He … Continue reading →

When You are Questioning a Divorce

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One question that some married couples face is whether or not they should get a divorce. In some cases it is very obvious to both partners that things were just not meant to be (abuse, affairs, etc). However some couples just seem to lose the connection that they once had. They begin to question if their marriage is worth keeping. If you are questioning your marriage and even considering divorce then obviously something is not right. Your marriage is in need of work. However that does not necessarily mean that it should be over. If you are questioning a divorce … Continue reading →

Alternating Holidays

For those of us who are single parents by separation or divorce, or share custody and parenting with another parent in some way, holiday traditions and holiday time can mean custody negotiations and turning to our parenting agreements to see whose turn it is. There are so many different ways that two-household families “do” holidays–from sharing them to alternating years, holidays, etc. How we handle holidays and how we establish traditions when we have to share can be one of the big challenges of single parenthood. In my world, holidays used to be much more regulated when my children were … Continue reading →

Beaches (1988)

Possibly the most famous of all chick flicks, there are still those who have not yet seen “Beaches.” Well, I aim to set that straight right now. Hillary Whitney is a little girl who has everything, except a friend. C. C. Bloom has nothing but her personality. When Hillary goes to Atlantic City on vacation with her family and gets lost, she wanders down the boardwalk wondering what to do until she discovers C. C. hiding out and smoking a cigarette. How shocking! C. C. promises to take Hillary back to her hotel after she auditions for a show, and … Continue reading →