Marriage and Lonelinessby Dale Harcombe | More from this Blogger 12 Sep 2008 07:30 PM Mick and I have a number of 60s records and tapes. We also have a lot of those same songs on CD so that we can listen to them in the car, especially if we traveling to Sydney as we often do. The other day I listened to the words of Chapel of Love and thought what an idealistic picture is represented. 'We're going to the chapel and we're going to get married and we'll never be lonely any more.' But is that the reality? Does getting married mean you are never, ever lonely? I don't think so. And statistics bear this out. If you flip over to my other blog you'll see what I've been reading and the statistics that back it up. This is why our divorce rates are going up and people are finding it harder to maintain relationships. Even in the best marriages there are times when one person can feel misunderstood and that they are being left to cope with things on their own. It can be as a surely of changed circumstances or illness. It can be our own attitude that is the problem. I know when I'm not well, as I have been with this flu, I can get very insular. I'm not thinking about how I can please Mick, or make alive easier or better for him. Fortunately Mick understands. He tends to react similarly when he is sick. The difference being,if he is not well he takes to bed and sleeps and sleeps - something I wish I could do but seem unable to. Sleep and I have never been great friends but recently while I've had the flu I admit we've become better acquainted. One of the sad aspects of not being well was we had to cancel a planned lunch at our home for several other people from church. But I take comfort in the fact that there will be other times. For the moment my focus is on getting myself back on deck and then trying to make up to my darling husband for not being great company and being so lethargic lately. Please visit these related blogs A Disease of Epidemic Proportions Big Changes in a Little Marriage Learn more about Dale Harcombe  Dale has a passion for books and writing. She writes in various forms, from articles to poetry to fiction for children and adults. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments Community Tags 60s music, changed circumstances, divorce rates, loneliness, sickness Discuss this article
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