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Making Assumptions

Making assumptions about what your spouse believes or thinks about things can spell trouble. I read a story recently sent us by a friend about a situation in Papua New Guinea. The men and women were split into two separate groups. Each group was asked what they considered to be the three most important issues to support children at school. Then each group was asked what they thought the other group would say. The men said ‘double classrooms, libraries and teacher houses.’ When asked what the women would say, they assumed the women would say exactly the same as what … Continue reading →

Responding and/or Combating Others’ Assumptions

Let’s face it—people make assumptions all the time—they make assumptions about other people, situations, institutions, the weather—you name it. As a single parent, we are often on the receiving end of other people’s assumptions and we can either ignore them, or find a way to respond and counter those assumptions with a reasonable dose of reality. How we respond and whether we respond at all will depend on our own personalities and what the circumstance requires… While I definitely do not think that stereotyping and making assumptions is limited to single parents, we do have a tendency to get our … Continue reading →

Re-visit Co-parenting Assumptions

Once you and your child’s other parent get a “system” worked out to deal with custody and parenting responsibilities, it can be quite normal to settle into a state of complacency. After all, it may have taken a lot of grief and negotiations to get to a sane and stable place. However, it is important to periodically revisit and restate what is going on and make sure that everyone is still on the same page. When I think of “assumptions,” I am thinking of the agreements we come to with the other parent, or things that evolve and seem to … Continue reading →

Owen Wilson—The Sad Story Making Headlines

Actor Owen Wilson continues to recover in a California hospital today four days after rescue crews responded to his home and his life changed forever. Santa Monica police confirmed that officers responded to an attempted suicide at Wilson’s house on Sunday. In the days since, producers of the movie Wilson was days away from beginning work on said the star will no longer be a part of the project. As with most Hollywood tragedies, fans will likely never learn all the details surrounding Wilson’s emotional breakdown. But, that’s certainly not stopping tabloids and other entertainment sources from trying to piece … Continue reading →

Making Contact: Setting Comfortable Limits with Our Child’s Adopted Siblings’ Families

One of my fears in preparing to meet my either of my sons’ siblings or adoptive families was what if they’re hopes for the degree of contact differs greatly from ours? I thought quite a bit about this and played out different scenarios in my mind. Part of me worried the families would rather not have any contact. When we first became a family, we had the constant reminder of adoption. We wanted to move on with life and feel normal. For this reason, I certainly would have understood my childrens’ birth siblings’ family wanting to move forward or have … Continue reading →

Genealogy Tip – Assume Nothing

Many of us know that it is often wise not to make assumptions. This is especially true when you are researching your family history. Making assumptions can lead to inaccuracies in your research and could even lead you down the wrong path to people who are not actually your ancestors. There are a few key areas in which avoiding assumptions is absolutely essential to the integrity of your research. The first is relationships. If you use Census records to figure out who is related to whom within a household, you may want to double check the answers that you get … Continue reading →

Princess Sofia the First: Let’s Hope She’s the Last

Next year Princess Sofia the First, the newest and youngest of Disney’s royalty, will make her debut. She’s going to star in a movie that will air sometime in the next few months on both the Disney Channel and Disney Junior. Her royal highness is only still just a child, with her main peer group (i.e., the ages at which Sofia is directed) being children between the ages of 2 and 7. Sofia’s a true Disney original; unlike any of her predecessors she’s not based on a pre-existing character from a fairy tale, myth, or historical event. She’s going to … Continue reading →

The Physical Effects of Anxiety

It may start in your head, but chronic anxiety – day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year – inevitably elicits some pretty profoundly negative responses from the rest of your body. So if you’re living with anxiety, as well as a painful or troublesome physical condition – particularly of the heart, lungs, stomach, muscles, skin, immune system, reproductive system, weight and/or head (as in headaches) – it’s time to make the connection. You may literally be making yourself sick with worry. As shared in my new book, Overcoming, Anxiety, Worry, and Fear: Practical Ways to … Continue reading →

The Arts and Marriage- Part 2

Sometimes with the arts, it’s a matter of not making assumptions. Recently a friend made an assumption because her husband wouldn’t go to an arts event, no-one else’s husband would either. There’s always a danger and a problem with making blanket assumptions about people. Opportunity and trying new things can make the change. Mick found when he was willing to try live theatre, he liked it. He liked how it’s a different medium to movies and how actors, directors and stage technicians get around the scenery changes required. He also liked the immediacy of live theatre. But he wouldn’t have … Continue reading →

How Long?

How long since you complimented your spouse? No, this is not a rhetorical question. I’d really like to hear your answer. Plus, it might be good for you to think about it. Can you even remember the last time you complimented your spouse. Mine was last night just before we went to sleep when I said to my husband. ’I’m glad I’m married to you.’ When was the last time your spouse complimented you? Sadly, compliments according the recent report appear to be one of the first things to disappear. In the first throes of love a person can expect … Continue reading →