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Loving an Angry Man

I’ll never forget a conversation I had with my husband early in our relationship regarding his anger issues. I was trying to ascertain whether or not he understood the impact his volatile temper had on his personal and professional life. When I realized that he didn’t necessarily consider his anger a negative attribute, I asked him, “How do you figure your temper helps you?” His answer was swift and decisive: “People are afraid of me, so they usually do what I want.” He was a little slower in answering my next question: “And how does it hurt you?” Like most … Continue reading →

The Uses and Management of Anger

Anger tends to be the emotion that really gets a bad rap. We parents are not supposed to get angry–anger is something to be tamed, squelched and eliminated if we are to be loving, super-parents. Well, who says? If we are to accept ALL of our children’s emotions and help them to learn how to use and manage anger in a healthy manner, then we need and get to use and manage our own anger in a healthy way… I once heard an experienced parent (one whose children were all grown) say that anger was incredibly useful as a parenting … Continue reading →

Make A Change For The Better

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As a single mother I try to remember every day that I am the example Hailey sees most often. I try to live a life that I want her to emulate. I want to be kind, giving, loving and have no bad habits that have a negative effect on my life or my health. Maybe in my next life I’ll be able to give up chocolate and diet soda but in this one I’m struggling! We all have habits that we wish we didn’t and things we certainly don’t want our kids to pick up. Maybe you bite your nails … Continue reading →

Scrooge Lives in Chicago

My 7-year-old daughter truly believes there is a Santa Claus, and I would like to keep it that way for, oh, the next… 30 years. If you have other ideas on how Barbie’s Three-Story Dream Townhouse magically appears (fully assembled) at the foot of a lopsided Fraser Fir on Christmas morning, keep them to yourself. I’m talking to you Robin Robinson. Recently, the FOX Chicago news anchor took it upon her to dash the dreams of Santa-loving kids by declaring that the jolly ol’ gift bearer was no more real than a herd of pastel-colored unicorns. Robinson’s self-absorbed remarks came … Continue reading →

Glam Shots for Shelter Animals

Do I look cool/cute enough to take home? I have a horrible addiction: I love to look at pictures of dogs and cats on petfinder.com. I know I shouldn’t, but sometimes I just can’t resist. I’ve always been an avid Petfinder follower. I’ve spent time looking at it since I was in high school, and I found the first two pets of my adult life through the site. At this stage I can reasonably say I’m a Petfinder expert. One thing I’ve learned from Petfinder is the importance of creating a good profile for the pets. I’ve seen some pet … Continue reading →

Claims Due To Dog Bites Have Gotten More Expensive

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Your dog might be the sweetest, most loving, people friendly dog in the world. Even so, there is potential that unforeseen circumstances could trigger your normally peaceful dog to bite someone. When this happens, it could cause the person who got bitten to file an insurance claim to your homeowners insurance policy. These types of claims have gotten more expensive. Information gathered by the Insurance Information Institute shows that in 2010, the average cost of a dog bite claim increased, (for people in the United States). People who had a dog bite claim filed to their homeowners insurance policy paid … Continue reading →

Living with the Risk Taker

Some people are by nature risk takers and that is not always easy for those who love them. It’s made even more difficult if you are not adventurous. Let me say at this point I do not have an adventurous bone in my body, unless you count writing a novel as adventurous. For me even getting on a plane to fly cross the other side of the world when I had a fear of flying was an adventure. I would struggle if married to an adventurous spirit. Fortunately Mick and I are very similar in our outlook. But suppose the … Continue reading →

PMS and Marriage

Have you ever noticed that at a certain time of the month, your husband just starts doing everything he can to annoy you? He talks weird and he walks weird and he smells funny, and he leaves his socks on the floor and he doesn’t check the mail, and you can tell him something six times, and he doesn’t get it, and you just want to grab him by the neck and shake him? And then he looks at you and says, “Is it that time of the month?” which only makes you want to shake him more, because he’s … Continue reading →

Physical Abuse Can Go Both Ways

We all know that it’s not right for a man to hit his wife. There are all kinds of protective agencies and laws in place, shelters for abused women, support groups that meet both online and in person. This is how it should be, but what about marriages in which the wife is abusive to the husband? It does happen. Most of the time, the husband is physically stronger than the wife, and if he’s the abuser, he can inflict a lot more damage. He can break her arms and ribs, give her concussions and bruises, and even cause wounds … Continue reading →

The One who Sulks

Mary’s article about loving an angry man made for interesting reading. But I guess it depends largely on how that anger is expressed or not expressed as the case may be. For example years ago, back in the dawn of time, before I met Mick (in other words when I was a young teenager) I went out with a young guy who had anger issues. He’d come from a dysfunctional family and as a result he had never learned within that family how to deal with anger in a constructive way.. The trouble was when he was angry, he didn’t … Continue reading →