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Honor Your Spouse?

In the marriage service it says love, honor and obey or love honor and cherish depending on which version you choose to have. What exactly does it mean to honor your spouse? Let’s start by what it doesn’t mean and what it does. You can honor them or dishonor them by the way you talk to your spouse and the way you talk about them. When you whine and whine to others about your spouse and their faults is that honoring your spouse? Not in my books it isn’t. Instead, it means honoring them with your actions and your words. … Continue reading →

Love, Honor and Obey?

The traditional words of the marriage ceremony require the woman to promise to ‘obey.’ Did you promise to obey? I didn’t. Our minister suggested ‘cherish.’ That’s what both of us did – we promised to love, honor and cherish. Why the difference and does it makes a difference? Promises are something that Mick and I take seriously and I couldn’t in all conscience to promise to obey. No, it wasn’t that I am a rampant feminist and against submitting to my husband, because I’m not. Obedience speaks more of a sense of duty rather than any other emotion. Cherish has … Continue reading →

Love Letters – Glimpses of the Heart

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Love letters reveal a great deal about how you feel or how someone else feels. The love letter is a romantic device in films, books and reality. Love letters are an enduring part of our history and our culture. So I thought we’d take a moment today and enjoy some glimpses of love letters from the past. Sullivan Ballou Sullivan Ballou served in the Union Army and he wrote this letter to his wife Sarah shortly before he died at the First Battle of Manassas during the Civil War. The letter was never mailed, but it was recovered and later … Continue reading →

Parenting and the word ‘No’

In my last blog we looked at the responsibility of parents. Today we will see the difference between a person who is not used to hearing the word, ‘NO.’ and the one who has learned obedience. In Old Testament times a barren women was told she would have a child Judges 13:2-3. He was to be a ‘Nazirite to God from the womb,’ verse 5. As God said, the woman gave birth to a son who was named Samson, Judges 13:24. It’s not too far fetched to suggest that after thinking they would never have a son, and then being … Continue reading →

Remember What You Contracted For

When you sign a contract, whether to buy a house or a car or an item on hire purchase there are certain things both parties agree to do. Once the contract is signed, both parties are required buy law to adhere to it. When we get married we also sign a contract. We contract to love, honor and cherish, or obey, depending on the version of your marriage service. We contract that we will keep on loving each other and being committed to each other for better ‘for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health,’ … Continue reading →

An Important Aspect of Marriage

Politicians make them all the time and though sometimes they are kept, other times they are forgotten, ignored or reneged on. Advertisers make them about their products, and too often we find their claims are not true. What am I talking about? Yes, you guessed it promises. Promises are an important aspect of marriage Promises When we married we made promises in front of witnesses that we would love, honor and cherish or obey, depending on the version of the marriage ceremony used, our spouse. At the time we, hopefully, believed we meant it. But what about when we find … Continue reading →

Do You Vote the Same as Your Spouse?

Do you vote the same way as your spouse? Does it matter if you don’t? Or is it one of those fundamental differences where you would not even consider marrying someone who had a different political stance? One of the things that interested me in the article recently in Time magazine was it claims that 40 years ago a woman would have most likely voted the same way as her husband. Over the years Mick and I have been married, and it’s over 40, sometimes we have we have voted the same way. Other times we haven’t. What we have … Continue reading →

Renewing Your Marriage Vows

Would you renew your marriage vows? At one stage, it became quite a trend for people to renew their vows. Would you? Why or why not? One reason why you might choose to renew your marriage vows is to publicly affirm your love for each other. In this day and age where many marriages are going to the wall, it’s great for others to see a marriage that has stood the test of time, that is still going strong and where the couple still loves each other and puts the other one at the center of their world. You might … Continue reading →

Faith Renounced: The “Royal” Price of Marriage

Yesterday Windsor Castle was the setting of a royal marriage. Queen Elizabeth II’s oldest grandson, Peter Phillips, married Canadian Autumn Kelly. From what I can tell, Peter’s one of the lower profile royals. (Meaning, he keeps a low profile by choice.) In fact, he did not immediately reveal to Autumn that he even was a royal. She only realized it when she saw a program about Prince William and spotted Peter as part of it. What’s interesting about their marriage is what she gave up: her faith. She still believes in God, of course, but she was Roman Catholic. She … Continue reading →

The Top Five Health Threats For Men

In honor of Men’s Health Week, it’s time to take a look at the top health threats to the men in our lives. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention published a list of the ten leading killers of American men in 2003 (the most recent data available to the public). The top five were responsible for more than sixty percent of all male deaths that year. Heart disease. The number one killer, responsible for approximately twenty-eight percent of all male deaths in 2003. Choosing a healthy lifestyle — including regular exercise and a balanced diet — is a … Continue reading →