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Old Love Letters

Valentine’s Day when you are single is not quite as much fun as when you have a significant other. I generally try to do something nice for myself and several years ago I came up with a way to do something positive and clear some space in my life. We all have mementos from every relationship we’ve been in. Even if a relationship only lasts a week or two we seem to wind up with little things, a movie ticket stub, napkin from where we had our first drink, whatever it is, these little things add up. I admit to … Continue reading →

Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow

It’s funny how much things change from generation to generation. My grandparents were married for over fifty years when my grandmother died. For their generation staying married was what they did, no one looked anywhere else, they took what they had and made the best of it. My grandparents adored each other but that’s not to say they didn’t drive each other crazy sometimes too, but they stuck it out, through the good and the bad. When I was growing up my family was the odd one out. My father died when I was three so I had a step … Continue reading →

Double Love

Recently two local couples marked a special day. They were both married on the same day in opposite parts of the world, yet they are now friends and neighbors here on the south coast of Australia. Both couples were celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary on March 25th. One couple met in Nottingham, England. Shirley worked at the time as a typist whole Tony worked on a building site. He used to see her each morning at morning tea time. When he told his mates that was the girl he was going to marry, they laughed at him. Three months later … Continue reading →

Time and Effort

Marriage is something that needs a lot of time and effort put into it to make it work. Sometimes that may require one partner putting aside their own interests or things they need to do to help out their spouse. Mick has been helping me prepare posters and flyers for the launch of my new book Streets on a Map. He has spent time coming up with ideas and moving things round on the computer and generally trying to make the posters look as eye catching as possible. Why? Because he realises this is important for me and he cares … Continue reading →

Is Marriage Irrelevant?

In the USA fewer adults are married. I would dare to suggest the situation would probably be similar here in Australia. Fewer people are getting married, with many choosing to live alone, or to live with a partner but outside of an official marriage situation. According to a Time magazine survey, almost half of these interviewed have lived with or are currently living with a partner without being married. Does this mean marriage has become irrelevant? Apparently not! Of the total of people involved in the research, 46 percent wanted to get married. Of these 64 percent were already living … Continue reading →

Romance and the Homeschool Mom and Dad

How does your day run? Chances are if you are a homeschooling family your focus is completely on your children throughout the day. A homeschooling mom can make a lesson out of anything and usually does all day long. A homeschooling house often looks more like a classroom than a home. If you enter a homeschooler’s house, and please do not do so without ample warning, you are likely to find an array of textbooks, school supplies, art projects all nestled in with laundry, lunch dishes, and mail that has yet to be opened. What does this atmosphere say? It … Continue reading →

Lasting Love

Did you notice recently when I posted the article about the seven Fs I read about, that you need in a marriage the first one mentioned was friendship? That struck me at the time. The thing you might expect would be love. But no, it was friendship and food for thought. The trouble is love today has come to mean many other things. People talk about ‘falling in love’ when often it is a physical attraction or it’s tied up with lust and the sexual appeal of the other person. It’s how they feel when they are with them. We’ve … Continue reading →

Holidays and Marriage – Part 3

One of the biggest considerations for your marriage with a holiday plan is whether you are going to camp. For many families this is a cheap alternative. But unless you are the type of people who enjoy this sort of thing, then don’t even consider it. For Mick and me, camping would not be a holiday but a nightmare. I would rather stay home than go camping. Thankfully Mick feels the same. As a result we could probably count on or fingers, maybe even one hand, the number of holidays we have taken in our married life. And that’s okay. … Continue reading →

When Love is Fading

Do you remember the joy and excitement when you first fell in love? Remember how you couldn’t stop thinking about the other person and wanting to talk about them to anyone who’d listen and even those that didn’t. You just wanted an excuse to hear their name. You wanted to hear their voice on the other end of the phone, to see them and spend all your time with them. You couldn’t wait for the day you’d be married and have more time to spend together. And then you married and it’s all great for a while. Then reality and … Continue reading →

Positives and Negatives of Stubbornness

Some qualities have a positive as well as a negative side to them. Stubbornness is one of those. The person who is stubbornly set in their ways and so rigid in their thinking that they never listen to anyone else, or consider the needs of others is hard to deal with and hard to live with. I’m inclined to think we all have a little stubbornness in our make up but it is hard to maintain a relationship with a severely stubborn person. However the areas where we need to be stubborn in our marriage is in our commitment to … Continue reading →