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I found out my ex-husband is getting remarried tonight. What’s worse, he didn’t have the nerve to tell me himself, I found out through Facebook. At first I was in shock. Wasn’t it only a few months ago that he told me he wasn’t getting married again anytime soon? Wasn’t it only a year ago that he was trying to get back together? While I am thoroughly convinced that getting divorced was the best decision in the world for me, it is hard to watch my former husband become somebody else’s. Not because I want to be with him, but … Continue reading →

Generational Differences in Marriage Dynamics: Cooking

Due to all of my volunteering, I spend a lot of time each week with people who are more in my parents’ generation than mine. That’s normal enough; once we graduate and enter the work force, our pool of peers naturally expands beyond our age group. I have no problem with this most of the time, but once in a while I feel our generational difference, and that usually relates to our views on marriage. My friends don’t have extremely different views on marriage than me; they’re certainly not the types who think their husbands rule the roost. I don’t … Continue reading →

Sally Ride Dies

Okay, you are probably reading my headline going “Why is this under Green Living?” But let me explain… Astronaut Sally Ride died last Monday after a seventeen-month battle with pancreatic cancer. She was 61. However, she leaves behind a huge legacy. Ride became the first American woman in space in 1983 when she was a member of the Space Shuttle Challenger. She was also the first woman to use a robotic arm, which was then used to retrieve a satellite. Ride went up in the Challenger again in 1984 and all in all, she spent 343 hours in space. As … Continue reading →

When Your Relationship Is Not Part of Your Marriage Anymore

Have you ever just stepped back and wondered what happened to the relationship with your spouse? You may be married but the relationship has ended. You go to work, come home, hardly speak and go to bed to do it all over again the next day. How much longer can you go on living without a relationship? Many married couples will say that their relationship has lost passion. That they just don’t feel the same they did when they were first dating their spouse. Of course they don’t, that initial phase of finding out all those exciting and crazy things … Continue reading →

She’s Leaving Home

My baby bird is getting ready to fly the nest. I know, a little dramatic but I’m feeling pretty dramatic right about now. For the past several years I’ve been thinking about what my life will be like when Hailey leaves home. Now she is ready to move out. In the next month or so she and her boyfriend will be getting a place of their own. I feel silly even saying this out loud, but what’s to become of me? I’ve spent so much of my life being a wife and mother that I’m not sure what to do … Continue reading →

Being a Healthy Example to Young People

You know what I fear that society is teaching our young people today? That marriage just doesn’t work. Statistics have shown that marriages are on the decline. More and more people are choosing to live together. Now my point isn’t to say whether or not living together is right. What I want to focus on is the negative portrayal that marriages have been given. All you have to do is flip on the television and you are bound to come across a sitcom where marriage is poorly portrayed. You don’t see very many “happy” marriages displayed across our television screens … Continue reading →

Co Habitation

I read an article that said co habitation is becoming the norm. As a society we are so afraid of divorce that we don’t make the commitment in the first place thinking that if it doesn’t work out it will be easier if we are not married. Yes, in many ways not getting married makes it easier if you split up, but maybe it also makes it easier to split up. Where is the determination to make this marriage work? Our children suffer when their parents separate whether they were married or not, there is no difference to the child. … Continue reading →

Marriage and Happiness – is it possible?

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While divorce is nothing new in this country, when I read about long-term marriages coming to an end, ala the Gore’s, the Schwarzenegger’s, and the Edward’s, I start to wonder if it is even possible to stay married forever anymore. I hear a lot about the “old days’, but I have a lot of grandparents due to multiple re-marriages. My great-grandparents remained together, but one spouse died long before the other. So maybe those that stay married forever over a real long time period are the anomalies. Maybe now that we live longer and more women are able to support … Continue reading →

What Would Their Family Tree Look Like?

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There is a show on TLC called “Sister Wives”, which is currently in it’s second season. The show features an extremely large, rather unique, family. It would be difficult for a genealogist to fit this family into a typical family tree template. The show “Sister Wives” features the family of Kody Brown. Kody has four wives, and sixteen children, (with another child on the way). The Browns are Fundamentalist Mormons, and their faith allows for the practice of polygamy. The law in Utah, where the family lived when the series was first being filmed, does not allow for multiple marriages. … Continue reading →

Custody Battles Over Pets

I’ve heard of nasty child custody battles, but I’d never thought of the same for pets. However, after reading about the concept in a recent Huffington Post article I don’t find it that surprising. After all, pets are like children to many people and even those that aren’t are still beloved by their owners. It’s no surprise that either divorcing party wouldn’t want to part with their pet. Pet custody has recently become a more contentious issue. Cases have risen 23% and Harvard Law now offers a course in the field. While I imagine that pet custody struggles are not … Continue reading →