Laugh, Cry, Kiss Your Problems Goodbyeby Heather Long | More from this Blogger 19 Jan 2007 05:59 AM Having a hard time lately? One of the best pieces of advice I have seen for coping with communication problems and disconnect in a marriage is to go out and have a good time. You may be looking skeptically at this, but I've known two couples who went to a couples weekend to work on their problems. They spent four days at a resort where they thought they were going to spend the weekend delving into every part of their problems and confronting the ugliness that has become their marriage. A Night on the Town The first step they were given when they arrived and checked in was the instruction to go out and have fun. Don't talk about any of the problems or the issues that are troubling their marriage. This may sound odd to you, but I recommend giving it a shot yourself. My husband and I do this periodically when we have trouble in our relationship. Why do you think these marriage focus weekends do this? Simple, when your problems have gotten so overwhelming that you have hammered it from all sides in arguments, hard conversations and more - you're not going to resolve much at loggerheads, but you both desperately want to - or you wouldn't attend a weekend like this. When a couple goes out and spends time enjoying themselves, avoiding all of those hard conversations and arguments and bullish stubbornness, you remember the reasons why you're together. You laugh, you relax and you can meet each other's eyes with a smile and affection again. Remembering how to laugh together is a key to resolving your issues. Empower Your Marriage We've talked about flexibility before and how flexibility can be the key to a successful marriage. By taking the time to laugh together, to cry together - you can kiss some of the hardships of resolving your problems goodbye. No, it doesn't make them go away, but it does empower you both to reach those resolutions and to come together in a positive solution. For more ways to do this, check out Romance a Day Keeps Divorce at Bay. What will you do tonight to laugh together? Related Articles: Date Night DVDs:Smart, Sexy & Funny Marriage Tips: Tides of Feeling Romance on Sunday - A Few Romantic SuggestionsLearn more about Heather Long  Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments No comments on this article yet. Be the first to comment! Community Tags date night, enjoy each other, Laughter, marriage counseling Discuss this article
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