January Check In: New Year's Resolutions in Marriage

by Stephanie Romero | More from this Blogger

30 Jan 2012 10:20 AM

It's time to check in and see how you are doing on your New Year's resolutions. Did you make any resolutions in the area of your marriage?

If you didn't, I strongly encourage you to do so. Call them resolutions, goals or whatever you like...all of us could take steps to improve our marriages.

In fact, this is my challenge for me and you the reader. Think of one thing you can do in the upcoming month to make your marriage better.

Is there something that you know drives your spouse crazy that you could stop doing? Is there something your spouse has asked you to do that you could start?

Are there things you have become slack in doing? Are there attitudes you have developed? Do you not spend enough time with your spouse? There are so many different areas that could be addressed.

For the month of February my goal is to give my husband my undivided attention when he is talking to me. I tend to half-listen to him. I might have my mind on other things or I might be engaged in another activity while he is talking to me.

By taking the time to stop what I am doing and giving him my undivided attention, I am showing him that he is most important at that moment. Besides, it will save the headache of a later conversation that typically goes this way...

Me talking: "Why didn't you tell me such and such?"

My husband's response: "I did."

My response: "When? I don't remember you telling me."

My husband's response: "An hour ago."

The reason I tend to "forget" things is because I wasn't really listening in the first place. So that is my goal for February, to become a better listener.

Make 2012 a year in which you are going to be intentional about making positive changes in your marriage. It will not only improve your relationship with your spouse but it will be a great example to others in your sphere of influence.

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Stephanie Romero is a wife and mom to three children ages 13, 14 and 18 years old. She writes web content for We Do Web Content and of course, blogs for Families.

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