Is Your Marriage All about the Children?

by Lyn Newton | More from this Blogger

05 Nov 2007 05:34 PM

I think most couples with children will agree that they cannot remember the days without children. I often wonder what I did with all of the extra time. My life must have been very boring.

Children consume much time and energy of their parents. Couples find that their time alone with one another is limited or nonexistent. Their complete conversation can often turn to talk about their children.

It can be difficult to have an adult conversation or even ask one another about his/her day. This is especially true when small children are involved.

Parents get less sleep when they have small children and can be short and irritable with one another.

Getting back into the role of being a wife or a husband can be difficult. Many times we get stuck in the role of mommy and daddy. While being a mom and dad is great, our relationship can quickly suffer if we neglect our husband and wife roles.

I have heard many couples comment that they no longer have anything in common or that they are lost when their children move out. I think that it is sad that a couple has lost some much between them that they cannot once again enjoy the t5ime that they have together.

I can agree that it is very difficult to keep it all together plus work on your marriage when you have children. However, it is very important to remember that all of our relationships are important. The relationship with our spouse is important just like the relationship with our children.

Try to make it a point to talk with your spouse at some point during the day. The conversation does not have to be serious or long. It can be a simple, "how was your day?" However, the topic should not be the children.

Do not feel bad about going out every now and then without the children. Make a date night just for the two of you.

Do something special for your spouse every now and then just to remind him/her that he/she too is still important in your life.

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Lyn is a kindergarten teacher and mommy to a girl and a boy. In her spare time, she enjoys informative and creative writing.

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