Is There Such a Thing As a No-Fault Divorce?by Dale Harcombe | More from this Blogger 13 Oct 2009 01:59 PM Is there such a thing as a no-fault divorce? The law says there is. But is there really? Let me share with you an example. Some time ago I knew a couple, let's call them Alice and John. (not their real names)John had an affair with another woman that resulted in him moving out of the family home and setting up home with the other woman. After a time he insisted he wanted a divorce, despite the fact Alice did not. In time he got his way. Now the conclusion that many people who knew this couple was that John was at fault completely, but was he really? Like a lot of others at the time, I thought so. But since then I've had time to think about it a bit more and to wonder. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not making excuses for what he did but suggesting maybe it wasn't all as cut and dried as we thought. After all no-one knows what goes ion inside a marriage but those concerned as a book, The Marriage Club by Kate Legge revealed. Fiction, yes but fiction is always based on observation and knowledge. So perhaps the wife, Alice, was also partly to blame for what happened. How? By not paying enough attention -not paying enough attention to her husband and to her marriage. This lady was very busy. She was always involved in lots of activities, worthwhile activities to be sure, but still it meant she was out a lot of the time and even when she was home she was preparing for meetings etc. Maybe it came back to a bad case of neglect - she simply didn't have enough time for him, she didn't show him she loved him and so he found someone who did. Sounds simple doesn't it? And in a way maybe it is. Every one of us needs to feel we are loved and needed by our spouse. If we don't, we start to feel unsettled and restless. And that's when the trouble starts. When people feel like this, that's when they get dissatisfied and start to look elsewhere. Related blogs Will Divorce Make You Happier? You Can Window Shop All You Like Marriages That Stand the Test of Time Don't Ignore Problems in Marriage Learn more about Dale Harcombe  Dale has a passion for books and writing. She writes in various forms, from articles to poetry to fiction for children and adults. Relevantmarriage tags User Comments No comments on this article yet. Be the first to comment! Community Tags affair, feel loved and needed, no fault divorce, neglect, not paying enough attention Discuss this article
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